There is truth to it. My husband works, i take care of the house and kids when they were young. We agreed on our roles, jobs.

Shit my babe could get it anytime he wanted it 🤷🏽‍♀ but he never made me feel like it was something i had to do ... which in someways im " old school" i would have dinner made for him when he got off work fix him a plate bring it to him, id run his bath or shower , and rub him down with lotion afterwards but because i wanted to ... thats the difference i wanted to not because of anything else

That's the problem with sides--it pits one against the other rather than finding common ground, compromise, recognition of each other's needs and our own responsibilities. Marriage is a partnership in a life than spans far more than sex or financial security, although a successful one usually requires a good dose of both. The ideal one is between partners who complement each other--one's strengths balances the other's weaknesses--and shared mutual values, including each other's roles and responsibilities.

My wife of 43 years frequently thanked me for giving her the freedom and financial security to pursue a variety of different jobs/careers, and being involved in raising our two kids and some of the housework. At the same time she recognized that I was the primary bread winner in a career that required 60 hour work weeks and 24/7 on call status which required her to be primary parent and housekeeper most of the time. We both acknowledged our needs for sex, but also there were times when one or the other of us was too tired or distracted for sex, and respected that. Who wants sex with an unwilling or passive, disconnected partner?

It should not be transactional. It cheapens both sex and marriage.

Yes they are not all same.

Gettin married is overrated. Shackin up is way better. LOL

Financial support for sex?
I think there is a term for that.

Mmm yeah, I'm with that.

When you marry someone, you promise to take care of them. Sex is definitely a need. For both of us.

While sex is certainly an important part of any relationship, but making money is something you do for yourself and your partner.

I think a lot of women fall out of love with their husbands, and aren't even remotely attracted to them anymore. Even if they WERE in love with their husbands when they were first married, some women are ill treated. Yet they are expected to forget all of that and lie on their backs and spread their legs because it is "required".

AND millions of married women ALSO work, and make just as much money as their husbands. So the money argument is bull.

🙄 this is gross

Rah, people be in the 40s still.

We both work. I earn more, and do most of the house stuff, and we have regular sex 🤷‍♀

It’s not the same, this conversation makes S-e-x transactional and who wants that.