Something wrong with my marriage?

I get every marriage has their problems. Just wondering what you guys think about this particular issue I am having. Kind of hard to explain so I will do my best.

I feel like we are more withdrawn from each other. She can be in her room and I am in the living room watching baseball or messing around on my phone by myself. We don’t really go out on dates anymore. There is no more spark. There is no sex anymore. It’s like we are just here living in the same house. I notice these problems and I think it’s not normal but why doesn’t it bother me more? But lately find myself missing the attention she use to give me or I use to give her.

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V00doo

Give her the attention. Take her out. Talk to her.

Mindful · 56-60, F

@V00doo this is a great ifea

Mindful · 56-60, F

Very normal. It’s up to you two to decide whether it’s okay or not. If one of you begins to express unhappiness over it, then both need to come up with a list of things to do. I believe it means you trust each other to busy be yourselves. There may be a book with suggestion on what to do. Personally I prefer a guy who likes doing some things I like doing so that when we want to go do something we can do if together and no one feels dragged into doing g something all the time. But you should ask her always, hey do want to go out somewhere or go do something?

TheRascallyOne · 31-35, M

She's cheating on you

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TheRascallyOne · 31-35, M

@JS1992 that's not a good sign

JS1992 · 31-35, M

@TheRascallyOne yah I figured things don’t seem right to me. I have grown more numb to everything. Like things use to bother me a lot and now I just let it go.

JS1992 · 31-35, M

@TheRascallyOne appreciate you talking with me a bit about it 👍

BeefySenpie · M

Are you initiating dates etc?

JS1992 · 31-35, M

@BeefySenpie I use to a lot. I would say once a week we date now

SW-User

@JS1992 once a week for going out doesn't sound that bad lol

Sex on the other hand should happen everyday.

hippyjoe1955 · 61-69, M

I might suggest you get rid of your TV and put your phone away.

WhateverWorks · 36-40

Sounds pretty common, but that doesn’t mean that it Hass to be that way. The things you described sounds more like a symptom of the friendship needing more work to reignite feeling connected to each other. When people feel connected they tend to enjoy each other’s company more and also get on better in the bedroom.