Marriage sucks

Sometimes, what you put in is what you get out. If people go in thinking it sucks and that it won't last and think about the dollars, is the heart really in it?

I’ve learned that marriage is really hard sometimes. Actually, living with anyone is hard, but especially when you love them. I finally realized that my hubs will always do things that make me insane, we will always disagree and argue about some things, and he will never, ever stop trying to use the deep freezer to store dead squirrels for training his dogs.

BUT…when we dig deep down into the marrow…there is endearing love and respect and a desire to share our crazy lives together.

That's only for you. If you don't want to get married, then don't. I'll be getting married because I want to spend my life with my partner.

Even then, we agreed to not have one of those stupidly expensive weddings. Going the cheaper route with court documentation, then planning an after party some time down the road.

Marriage is supposed to be a committment to another. Too many view it as something that when you hit a rough spot to move on from. While there are reasons for divorce, there are still many reasons for marriage. With the attitude expressed above, marriage may not be for you, but for many, it is fulfilling and long-lasting.

I've been happily married for over 20 years, and my mom and dad were married for 51. It's not for everyone.

Sounds like you just haven't found the right person. I got married when I just turned 19. 40 years later, we're still together and happy. I can't imagine how my life would have been without marriage.

Generalising about what marriage is or isn't, how spouses (spice?) should relate to each other or what sort of counseling they should seek is maybe fun, but a big waste of time. There are so many differences between people and among circumstances that only exploration of a specific marriage at a specific time would make any sense - and maybe not then.

It sure does when you are married to the wrong person

I often feel the same way.
But I have to admit, marriage has its benefits. If you and your partner have done well in choosing love of them over love of self, It can work.
But it’s never easy.

Bonding/kids is nearly inevitable.

Focus on the bond. Then focus on the kid making. Doing it in reverse causes most problems.

Look,I don't see myself getting married personally,but I'll be the first to say that the INSTUTION of marriage is vital to our country and culture and for the purposes of propagating the population.I think the problem is that the instution has been cheapened by the general decline in the attitude and morality of the citizenry.That said,I don't belive a person should ever be forced into marriage,and I belive a person doesn't have to get married in order to have a productive and fulfilling life.

I suppose it’s the ultimate test for couples, and not all of them pass.

Marriage is a contract entered into by two parties who love one another, in the fond hope that things will work out beautifully, and that they will be happy together.

Marriages were created so that any children of that union could be legally protected by BOTH parents, and that either one would pay for the child's support, shelter, food and clothing.

Sorry for your bad experience; True love is phenomenal!!

Yes. I agree. Not sure why my parents got married.

and I once remember one of your post from last year demanding us to get married and have Children.

Kids deserve to be raised by both parents. Marriage is doing it the way God wants us to.

Children need their legal papers.

I read a study that said 30% of all brides know they are making a mistake getting married.

I’ve been married for over 20…choose carefully.

Its good if you want kids, although so many idiots who marry cant even get that right

Two people cannot walk together unless they agree. Sometimes, people simply aren't meant to be. However, you have made a commitment and if comprising is necessary, you should compromise. Try marriage therapy if that fails. Mainly, be honest, communicate your feelings and be faithful to your partner and things should fall into place. If your spouse is unhappy and is hellbent on leaving, sometimes you just have to let them go.