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PrivateHell · M
This is akin to my golden rule as well...if it's something I wouldn't be comfortable doing in front of my significant other, it's probably something I shouldn't ever be doing.@PrivateHell
Konicha605 · 22-25, F
not being completely open to your partner. i mean, why do people in marriages have sex with other people? for many reasons, but these reasons come from issues like "i don't love him/her anymore" or "i felt attracted to this man/woman, so i was caught by the moment and it happened". those are symptoms of an unhealthy marriage. if u don't talk about that to your partner, then you are already cheating even before actually doing it, but if you talk about that to your partner and they don't do anything about that or they don't care, then it's more your partner's fault. I think marriage, but in general every relationship, is about balance: you do something for me, i do something for you. if this balance doesn't exist, then there's something wrong
greenmountaingal · 70-79, F
@Konicha605 People cheat for many reasons. Some of those reasons have nothing to do with their marriage or how they relate to their partner. In some cultures, it's considered normal for a man to cheat (some Italians think it's a sign of health and success in life for a man to have a mistress). Some men get bored with being married to one woman. Some people like the adventure aspect of sneaking around. To say it's about the quality of the marital relationship just puts the burden of guilt on the person who is cheated on and makes them feel even worse, plus it gives the cheater the perfect excuse.
bijouxbroussard · F
@greenmountaingal Agreed, especially the assumption that the cheated on spouse is somehow being “neglectful”. Men, particularly will justify cheating to the other woman by telling her he and his wife stopped having sex long ago. An acquaintance who was the other woman found out the hard way when both she and the wife of the man she was convinced was just waiting for the “right time” to file for divorce became pregnant. It took a minute for her to grasp that no, the wife hadn’t also been cheating. 🤦🏽♀️
Elevatorpitches · F
@AnonymouslyYours Again that depends on the culture and individual choices
bijouxbroussard · F
@AnonymouslyYours I read a theory many years ago (I can’t remember the source) that based on many polls, women are more threatened by emotional infidelity, men more by physical.
The reasoning was that women don’t believe men take sex that seriously, but with an emotional attachment they’re most likely to fall in love.
Conversely, men believe that women take sex very seriously and only become sexually involved when they’re already emotionally bonded.
It was an interesting premise.
The reasoning was that women don’t believe men take sex that seriously, but with an emotional attachment they’re most likely to fall in love.
Conversely, men believe that women take sex very seriously and only become sexually involved when they’re already emotionally bonded.
It was an interesting premise.
greenmountaingal · 70-79, F
StevetheSleeve · 31-35, M
AngSmith · 51-55, F
Each couple is different based on what they agreed to. Some are ok with flirting, others view anything like that as cheating. Emotional cheating can be varied too by couple. Some don't like their spouse engaging with the other sex in anyway they feel should be reserved for them. Even swingers have rules for what they are allowed to do with other people in the marriage.
DownTheStreet · 56-60, M
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in10RjFox · M
That's a very vague question as each one makes their own rule for what marriage is and what cheating is ..
But in its true sense my act done to japoardise or compromise the family or its values is cheating. Just an extra marital affair does not construe cheating but working with a another to shame the family or steal it's resource or misuse the position, is cheating.
But in its true sense my act done to japoardise or compromise the family or its values is cheating. Just an extra marital affair does not construe cheating but working with a another to shame the family or steal it's resource or misuse the position, is cheating.
anxietyme · F
They don't see marriage as a commitment but as a temporary state that if it pleases them they will stay and if doesn't they are entitled. It is selfish, it's destructive, and too eaisly excused.
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Iwillwait · M
Anything that they're doing but the other is caught doing.
*eats cherry fruit filling out of icecream*
*eats cherry fruit filling out of icecream*
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anything you hide from me that pertains to another woman is sus. cheating would be flirting and more.
DownTheStreet · 56-60, M
Try next post “what do people actually consider as being faithful in marriage?”
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ozgirl512 · 26-30, F
Depends on the marriage... Some allow more latitude
Anything you lie about or hide.
Horsepower · 31-35, M
For various reasons!
bijouxbroussard · F
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ViciDraco · 36-40, M
If you can't talk to your spouse about it, you probably shouldn't be doing it. Given the spouse is reasonable and not the type that controls who one can be friends with.
Where the line gets drawn is a thing that should be clearly drawn between marital partners because it really is different for every couple.
Where the line gets drawn is a thing that should be clearly drawn between marital partners because it really is different for every couple.