I Want My First Marriage To Be My Only Marriage

Call me old school but marriage is very sacred to me and I’m very scared of getting a divorce because of it. I only wanna do this once but sometimes I feel like the man that I chose to be with is sabotaging us because he lied to me for 10 years about his past and who he is. When he came clean about it all he told me he wants me to know everything he says from that moment forward he wants me to know its the truth so I gave him another chance. Only months later I caught him smoking weed after telling me he hasn’t been. He snuck out to do it, hiding behind our vehicle and smoking right infront of our daughters things. I pretty much told him this is the last time. If he lies again I’m out. Its scary that my whole future is in his hands and its scary that I can’t trust him. I don’t know if I’ll ever be able to. I just hope he takes us seriously.

4meAndyou · F

I have the same feelings about marriage. It is a sacred institution. Yet I have been married and divorced three times. Twice because of cheating, and once because of abuse, neglect, and threats.

A marriage that is holy is supposed to be a place of mutual love and trust. If it is not that, then it is not holy.

I am not really qualified to give advice, but I would say that it is important to you that your husband behave in certain ways, and when he does not he lies to you, and that is not ever going to change.

You should try counseling.