I Am In An Open Marriage

@LittleEvilOne You might as well just be girlfriend and boyfriend and stop pretending it's a good thing. Marriage involves commitment and discipline.

We’ve been married 25 years. I’d say that’s commitment and discipline. We also are entitled to be happy. @MarkPaul

Marriage is different for everyone. Who are you to dictate theirs? They’re both consenting adults and they’re happy with this. Nothing else should matter to you.@MarkPaul

@GlitterBug Marriage is not subject to individual whims, just like parental responsibility has certain obligations attached to it. As an example, you don't let your 7 year old child sleep with a 30-year old celebrity and still get to claim you are a responsible parent. Likewise, you don't flaunt the requirements of marriage and then with a shrug of shoulders claim, "anything goes."

Do what you want if you are not harming anyone, but don't try to call a non-marriage a marriage. It makes a mockery out of it and the language. Got it?

It isn’t ‘anything goes’ though. It’s something specific that was agreed upon between two partners. Just like there are different parenting styles there are different ways people conduct their marriage.

You don’t have to agree with it but you are not in a position to judge anyone else for their choices. Got it?
@MarkPaul

@GlitterBug That's not a marriage. Do it or don't do it. That's up to individual choice. But, it's not a marriage

That’s your opinion. Should learn to be respectful of differing ones.
@MarkPaul

@GlitterBug That's not an opinion. You can't just start changing the meaning of words. What is your problem, dude?

I’m not changing the meaning. She is married to her husband in the eyes of God and the law. What they do in the bedroom and with who is irrelevant.
I don’t have to have a problem to speak.
@MarkPaul

Or wife* @GlitterBug

@GlitterBug I don't think you understand what marriage means, what it is, or what God expects. No offense.

God isn’t always involved in marriages either, by the way. I understand perfectly what marriage means. By definition and by varying personal meanings. Your personal meaning differs from theirs to some degree. @MarkPaul

@MarkPaul God can suck my dick.

@GlitterBug "...he is married to her husband in the eyes of God..." You said this, right? And, I didn't force you into that saying that?

@JonathanC That's disrespectful.

If god is included in their marriage that is true. If not then it doesn’t matter what any god might think or see if they even exist to them. At all. Note that I also said “and the law”. Which is the important part, they made an agreement to each other. They made a choice with each other. Seems this married couple has made yet another choice together.
Like I said, you don’t get to dictate how anyone else conducts their marriage and you don’t get to judge them for it either.

@MarkPaul

You certainly have a right to your opinion, as does everyone on SW. I think what you need to understand is that this “ethical nonmonogamous” relationship that my husband and I agreed to, took a year to form. It was anything but a whim. No, it’s not conventional. But it is literally saving our marriage. Six months ago, we weren’t communicating and we were discussing separation. Unless you’ve walked in sexless marital shoes for 25 years, it is difficult to judge what is right or wrong for another couple. God will judge me one day. I am prepared for that. In the meantime, I still love my husband, respect him, am honest with him, am not cheating on him, and choose to stay married to him. That doesn’t seem so bad to me. Peace and love to you.✨@MarkPaul

How? @MarkPaul

@GlitterBug The "disrespectful" response was meant for that guy's comment about God.

I must have them blocked, don’t see anyone else’s but yours. @MarkPaul

@GlitterBug And, you don't get to redefine marriage to fit some school girl's notion that people should be entirely care-free to violate God's law. That being said, let's get one thing straight. I'm not telling anyone what to do or what they can or should do. Just don't call it marriage. Because that's not what it is.

Thank you so much. It was the lesser of the evils, because divorce just did not sit right for either of us. We wanted to stay together. My husband cannot give me what I need, and ultimately wanted me to be happy, after years of my sacrificing. Him granting me this open marriage was the ultimate act of selfless love, in my opinion. @LittleEvilOne