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For the guys i know its not traditional but would you ever concider taking a girls last name after marriage

Just wondering peoples takes on it
SweetMae · 70-79, F
I think everyone should keep their own names but then you have to decide which name the children will use.
CoffeeFirst · 56-60, F
@SweetMae Our kids have my last name as their middle name, and DH's last name as their last name. Problem solved.
SweetMae · 70-79, F
@CoffeeFirst That was a very old naming custom. It does work well.
Pfuzylogic · M
If you have children, it is traditional and considerate for the children to take the males name.
In Israel it affected inheritance of the land.
Pfuzylogic · M
I was sharing with you because you seemed to be honestly confused. I can see now you aren’t.
It is fun to chat with a former friend.
CoffeeFirst · 56-60, F
@Pfuzylogic I understand the reasoning behind the tradition. Not a problem. There are other ways to trace families today. DH does his family genealogy and the names were screwed up 100 years ago, too. I didn't mean to sound curt.

I understand it can be confusing on the surface to figure out who belongs to who. I've had the same issue in my own family. But why should I be denied my identity? There are many reasons I kept my name, and the kids have both our names.

Fun to chat with you, too!
Pfuzylogic · M
I see you see you summarized everything so that you don’t need my input. Take care.
Viper · M
I'd be willing to mentally consider it, but I'll probably be keeping my last name.

If I didn't like my last name (which I do) then I might consider it.
DHggmu · 31-35, M
No, not because of tradition, but because I want my families name to live on with my children if or when I have any.
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midnightsun · 26-30, M
No I won't change.
BlueRain · F
No. It’s just weird.
No, not ever.
LokiBecky · 18-21, F
That makes them their wives property if they do.
Lol no guy would do that unless he’s kinky
@LokiBecky i saw it on a tv show where the guy was willing to take her and his daughters last name so they can be a complete family
LokiBecky · 18-21, F
@PrettyMonkey right so an emotionaly damaged man forcing himself into a family.
Ok, no regular man would do that
@LokiBecky no he fell back into the family's life not even knowing he had a 13 year old daughter with his old girlfiend he decided he wanted to be with them and when they didn't really want to change their name he was willing to so they could all be the same
cherokeepatti · 61-69, F
There was a man who’s father-in-law owned a Cadillac dealership here and he took his wife’s last name....that was weird then and just as weird today.
Wraithorn · 51-55, M
No I wouldn't. I would compromise though if necessary. We could combine our last names into a new name.
Imsleepy · 31-35
I would not do it. I didn’t even care if my ex wife changed her last name to mine.
CoffeeFirst · 56-60, F
Sure, why not? It's just a name. For the record, I did not take my husband's name.
Synyster · 51-55, M
No, I'm the only boy in our family and I'm carrying on the family name.
Keepitsimple · 51-55, F
I wouldn’t want anybody to take my maiden name. It’s awful.
and they say i need shock therapy
DDonde · 31-35, M
I have no problem with it personally, although I don't know what my family's reaction would be.
FeetAreFantastic · 41-45, MVIP
No, I'd rather each of us just keep our own name.
tenente · 100+, M
Makes zero difference to me 🤷🏼‍♂️

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