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I Cannot Tolerate Extreme Insecurity In a Romantic Partner

I have a business page for our farm and I put a picture of myself up to show people it's not a scam, there is a person available to speak with.
Well, I got a message from some older fellow who was hitting on me, telling me how beautiful I am and wanted to 'chat'. I immediately blocked him, didn't even answer.
My boyfriend and I have had issues in the past because he doesn't like other men complimenting me and when he finds out I talk with male friends (who I grew up with or from high school - not romantic exes) he accuses me of 'cheating on him'.
So, I was honest and told him about this message and his response? "I don't see why you put a pic of yourself on that site anyway. What do you expect?". I was livid! I told him I'm not responsible if people view my pic and hit on me ... putting my pic up isn't "asking for attention".
You know, I'm damned if I do and damned if I don't. If I don't tell him and he finds out I'm a cheater and if I am honest and tell him I'm asking for it! Seriously???? I guess this pic was "asking" for some creeper to harass me. FML
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smileylovesgaming · 31-35, F
I wouldn't have told him. But I get why u did it. He does have jealousy problems. The bigger question is this. Do you see this relationship lasting long term. If you don't move on. You need someone better
naturegirlUK · 41-45, F
would it be the same if a woman spoke to him?
naturegirlUK · 41-45, F
@Hazeleyedforever1968 your in deep shit if he finds this and all the guys talking to you
Hazeleyedforever1968 · 56-60, F
@naturegirlUK lol .. yah, no kidding.
naturegirlUK · 41-45, F
@Hazeleyedforever1968 Just have to say I hi jacked your account
RosaDawn · 46-50, F
We dont know why he act this way but you dont need that in your life. He wont change, you wont change. Its over.

Kidding. But yes, he wont change you know.
bowman81 · M
He is the one with a problem. You control how much of a problem it becomes for you.
This is just a normal selfie...how is this asking for it? He needs to get over himself
Fernie · F
@issues you cannot reason with someone like that. That level of insecurity is toxic in a relationship. I don't know how people stay with someone like that
@Fernie i think of it both ways..idk why someone with that extreme level of insecurity would even try to be in a relationship... why not work on yourself first & then try a relationship out. They're still emotionally immature
Fernie · F
@issues emotionally immature and extremely insecure people rarely recognize that in themselves...if they could they would not continue to act that way
Fernie · F
If you put your picture out there are you actually surprised at the creepy men responding to it?? Why would you do it in the first place then tell your suspicious, insecure boyfriend? I'm so confused
Hazeleyedforever1968 · 56-60, F
@Fernie It's a business page ... a lot of people use their picture and I'm sure creepers happen no matter what. I tell him because if he finds out on his own I'm a "cheater" .. read the post. I want to be honest with him so he doesn't come unglued on me for something I'd never do. I'm not surprised at the creepy men responding to it, there are creeps everywhere whether you use a pic or not, my post is about how he reacts.... It's not like I was showing a lot of cleavage, etc.
@Hazeleyedforever1968 you weren't showing any cleavage
Fernie · F
@Hazeleyedforever1968 Oh, sorry...I missed that first line in your post. Still...I don't understand anyone staying with partners who are so insecure they think you are cheating all the time and are threatened by your friends. That is not love and there is no trust
SW-User
Jealousy ruins a lot of relationships
pdockal · 56-60, M
Bf is totally insecure
You really should reevaluate you situation
When you beautiful ( which you are ) you going to get complimented and hit on
braveheart21 · 61-69, M
If this is the photo u put on the web site . .then there aint a thing wrong with the guys eyesight ... you are beautiful
Blueyed · 61-69, M
Women never ask for it.
Hazeleyedforever1968 · 56-60, F
Are you being sarcastic or serious? I think some do. The ones that show everything off and seek attention, but others don't. A woman can't help it if men find her attractive, doesn't mean she 'asked' for it.@Blueyed
Blueyed · 61-69, M
@Hazeleyedforever1968 I'm being serious. Some women may ask for attention...hell, they do...but as a human being, other than looking or complimenting, a man should not go beyond that.
Fernie · F
why DO you tolerate it?
Hazeleyedforever1968 · 56-60, F
Not sure to be honest. Sometimes he makes me think I'm the one with the problem.@Fernie
melbeacher · 61-69, M
Beautiful !!

 
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