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I Cannot Tolerate Extreme Insecurity In a Romantic Partner

I have a business page for our farm and I put a picture of myself up to show people it's not a scam, there is a person available to speak with.
Well, I got a message from some older fellow who was hitting on me, telling me how beautiful I am and wanted to 'chat'. I immediately blocked him, didn't even answer.
My boyfriend and I have had issues in the past because he doesn't like other men complimenting me and when he finds out I talk with male friends (who I grew up with or from high school - not romantic exes) he accuses me of 'cheating on him'.
So, I was honest and told him about this message and his response? "I don't see why you put a pic of yourself on that site anyway. What do you expect?". I was livid! I told him I'm not responsible if people view my pic and hit on me ... putting my pic up isn't "asking for attention".
You know, I'm damned if I do and damned if I don't. If I don't tell him and he finds out I'm a cheater and if I am honest and tell him I'm asking for it! Seriously???? I guess this pic was "asking" for some creeper to harass me. FML
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This is just a normal selfie...how is this asking for it? He needs to get over himself
Hazeleyedforever1968 · 56-60, F
@issues thank you! someone who understands. Yes, perhaps using a pic will attract the crazies but I want people to feel comfortable to come to my page, see me - that I'm an actual person and it's not a scam, and be able to communicate with me.
@Hazeleyedforever1968 he has really bad jealousy issues..& if he was going to get mad at anyone, why not get mad at the men hitting on you? Lol.
Fernie · F
@issues any woman who puts her picture out there...no matter why they do it...is leaving herself open to creepy men. That's not the goal but it will always happen
@Fernie True enough, but my point is that i don't understand why her husband would feel threatened in any way by this picture of her? She's not the problem, the creepy men are. And He should know very well that it's bound to happen, even on a business page apparently lol & it's nothing to get worked up about.
Fernie · F
@issues you cannot reason with someone like that. That level of insecurity is toxic in a relationship. I don't know how people stay with someone like that
@Fernie i think of it both ways..idk why someone with that extreme level of insecurity would even try to be in a relationship... why not work on yourself first & then try a relationship out. They're still emotionally immature
Fernie · F
@issues emotionally immature and extremely insecure people rarely recognize that in themselves...if they could they would not continue to act that way