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How Many Times Have You Broken Up With the Same Person?

Breaking up with someone more than once and then getting back together or married again is often a poor and unhealthy choice. After a breakup, it is usually best to avoid trying to maintain a friendship, as it can lead to repeating the same mistakes in the relationship. Despite this, many couples do break up, stay friends, and eventually reconnect. However, marrying each other later on may not always be the right solution.

An example is as follows:
Jessica was with her boyfriend for eight months.
She broke up with him twice before, and he ended their relationship four times. These breakups occurred within the first three to five months of their time together. Despite their efforts to work through their differences, they ultimately decided to part ways. Unfortunately, this is a common experience. Sometimes, people choose to break up to explore relationships with others, hoping to learn more about themselves through new experiences. You break up from a relationship and then get back together again. It doesn't always work out. Have you experienced this in your past dating experiences? What are the times you've broken up with someone, or even the same person, the most? When you broke up, did you continue to speak with your past love?

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This incident involves a couple who broke up for a month.
One night, she called him and asked for help setting up her television. He went to her place and assisted her with the task, but afterward, he felt hungry. They decided to go out for something to eat and shared a few alcoholic drinks. As the night progressed, he ended up staying at her place. She was feeling insecure about sleeping alone in her new home and asked him to stay over. This situation sent mixed signals to her, leading her to think he wanted to get back together. However, this was a misleading assumption following their breakup after a seven-year relationship.



How Many Times Have You Broken Up With the Same Person? Maybe you did not get back together at least self-respect counts for you. What makes you think it will work the second time?

Trusting someone again is not always straightforward. Such decisions don't always work out well for everyone. Continuing a relationship after a breakup can be difficult, and it often depends on the specific issues that have arisen. It’s easy to lose track of the times you’ve broken up with someone; some couples experience this more than twice. This can make it challenging to move on from certain problems. Believing that someone must change for you, with the expectation that those changes will lead to a better situation, is often an unfulfilled dream.




Understanding the meaning of dating is essential. It is not merely hanging out with someone on weekends; dating involves having someone significant in your life for months or even years. A partner is someone you can rely on, trust, and share your life with. It’s natural to go on many dates before finding the person you want to have in your life long-term. Eventually, you may wish to settle down, start a family, and purchase a home together. Building a solid foundation and growing as a couple is important. Commitment is not something to take lightly. Unfortunately, people often go back on their words, and when you notice this on a date, it can be a sign that they may not be the right person for you. Mutual tolerance is a crucial aspect of any relationship. Breaking up multiple times can ultimately harm both your life and your relationship. Getting back together with someone who doesn’t keep their promises can make it challenging to live together successfully.

Problems can be overlooked if you don't acknowledge them.

If you don’t view your relationship as an experience, you might see it as a problem, which could lead to not getting back together. Respect is crucial in a marriage or any relationship, for that matter. Accept each other, and you will see how much better you can be together. In this case, the couple has been in an on-and-off relationship for four years. He is in his thirties, and she is in her twenties. Their decisions about their relationship were intertwined until she broke up with him because they were attending different schools. She ended the relationship three times, but he chose to remain committed to her, believing they would eventually be together again. He has shown her many good times during their time together, making her feel that only he can provide what she wants and needs and that no one else can do that for her. However, a significant issue is that he has been divorced twice, while she has never been married. Ultimately, her decision is to remain single for now.


Should you try to keep someone who doesn't want to keep you?

When you break up for the first time and then get back together, it should serve as a lesson learned. You shouldn't blame it on love. However, if you break up for a third time, you might start to believe that you are meant to be together. Throughout this process, you may lose some friends due to the negativity of your relationship. Your constant complaining and heartache can become tiring for them. By the fifth breakup, your friends might have reached their limit. It’s important to recognize that there is usually a reason for these breakups, which could be related to your personality or behavior. If you find yourself breaking up numerous times, it’s advisable to seek professional help. It's time to move on to something new.

Sometimes loneliness brings you back together.

One can learn several essential aspects from navigating relationships and friendships. It’s important not to share unnecessary details with friends; instead, focus on the most important points. They may become tired or bored with your complaints, so it's crucial to work through your issues on your own. Find a significant other and move forward, as you may not always be ready for a commitment. Many relationships do not end after just one experience, and the fear of being alone can be daunting. Fears surrounding commitment, taking the next step, and dating others can create insecurity about future dates. Additionally, safety is a significant aspect of life; it’s important to remember that nobody will love you in the same way that someone else once did. You may struggle with the feelings of abandonment that can accompany these realizations. Blame is not a healthy influence. Loving someone unconditionally is essential in a relationship. Holding on to what you have is the most important aspect.
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zonavar68 · 56-60, M
Once an ex always an ex - the reasons two people broke up don't go away or change. I've stopped wanting or looking for romantic adult sexual connections now (I'm 56 btw).
Shavond · 51-55
@zonavar68 Interesting.....
masterofyou · 70-79, M
Nice book you just wrote, is it about you??

Most people write and give advice about their own misgivings....
masterofyou · 70-79, M
Make it shorter next time...it gets boring....
Shavond · 51-55
@masterofyou I don't get it!!! You asked me a question, and I answered you, but the response was unaccepting. If you already know the answer, why bother asking the question?
masterofyou · 70-79, M
@Shavond you people don't get anything ....
exexec · 70-79, C
Never for me. My wife broke up with several guys, but she managed to keep them as friends, just no dates.
KarenDuponteDurose · 46-50, F
Only - officially! - just the once with the woman, some 6 years later, I would get together and marry.

🥰
Ynotisay · M
Once. You do it once. That's a self-respect thing.
Shavond · 51-55
@Ynotisay Once???? No relationship is perfect. Even families have disputes. I guess you are like Karen White when she said, "I'd rather be alone than unhappy." The problem with that is that being alone becomes boring and play out, eventually leading to depression.
Ynotisay · M
@Shavond Who said relationships are perfect? What I said is that your break up once. You either mean it or you don't. And yeah. I would MUCH rather be alone than unhappy. I run me. And as far as depression there's clinical depression and the there's the choice to be depressed. Don't choose it.
Shavond · 51-55
@Ynotisay 👍🏾
Lilymoon · F
Once is enough
ArtieKat · M
Relationships are complicated.
Shavond · 51-55
@ArtieKat Relationships are you make them. You only get what you put in it. That is why having a good understanding of your mate is crucial.
zonavar68 · 56-60, M
Once an ex always an ex
@zonavar68 That's not true. An x can become a y under certain conditions. 🤣

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zonavar68 · 56-60, M
@FrogManSometimesLooksBothWays ex not X 8-) Nothing to do with DNA etc.
@zonavar68 Never mind.
Wiseacre · F
Never more than once.
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Shavond · 51-55
@SStarfish To answer your question I wrote it. Why is that a concern for you? If you are offended, you can just ignore my writings and let others who have an appreciation benefit from it.

 
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