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Do I dare do another online relationship?

Many of you know me, and also knew the person from EP/SW that I had a relationship for well over 7 years or so. You know that we talked online 7 nights a week 5-6 hours straight unless he had a hospital app't, a horse show, or travel to Italy for a couple of days.

You also know he was "straight" but claimed he had a "bend" where I could fit nicely. It wasn't just a physical love ( Although we talked about how to work that out in a sensible way) Those who knew us both knew our love was on so many different planes not just the physical. A perfect Pisces/Virgo match. So completely able to "read" each other, make each other laugh, and rarely cry. It was as much "Spiritual" as physical. Unfortunately, months before our marriage, his genetic brain tumor got him and he died. He wrote me the day before and stressed, My happiness is the most important thing. Above all else he wants me happy.

I don't really believe in online relationships. I think we were the odd exception. Without prejudice of my sexual preference, What is your honest impression? The current one is cute, but we hardly know each other and to be honest. I'M AFRAID. TOTALLY AFRAID!
SW-User
I’m pretty much a born cynic and skeptical of everything, so frame my opinion accordingly. My skepticism would include online relationships unless it were just an entrée with the goal of meeting and making it happen IRL.
@SW-User Hate to say this, and don't remember if you knew Joseph84, but I had to laugh at your observations. He was the ultimate practical Virgo and he would have said. EXACTLY THE SAME THING!

Right now, somewhere, somehow, Joseph is laughing his ass off once more at my expense. (However, it really was an "Entree") it was the premature death that stopped it.
Happymedium · 56-60, F
Love can be scary!
I think....you sound smart and if you're ready to take the plunge YOU WILL.
Only you know.
Good luck
@Happymedium I wrote. Said I'm going to need some time. LOT'S of time, most guys in their 30's don't want to wait around specially since I'm already nearly dying on the vine at 50+
The thing about online relationships is the big possibility of being “catfished” (although people certainly lie offline, too) and the community tends to be aware of the ongoing ups and downs, since they know you both. I never joined EP or SW with the intention of dating, but yeah, even though I have friends who’ve been successful, I’m still very hesitant.
SW-User
Very wise words 🌸@bijouxbroussard
SW-User
@bijouxbroussard just do a video call
Justenjoyit · 61-69, M
@bijouxbroussard what are you doing Saterday night😉
SW-User
It's a huge risk, but it is possible to have a deeper connection as you know, with someone online..I'm hopeless, because I have ideas of romance, but reality is very different for me. I think it definitely will depend on who's involved..
Your story is beautiful yet heartbreaking...I agree with BalmyNights comment, whether it's online or in the real world.
Keepitsimple · 51-55, F
Don’t do it. If you have anything it is only once and nothing compares to it again. Just be happy you had it at all. I’m sorry for your loss 😢
abe182 · 46-50, M
I would do real life
Pauly · 70-79, M
G@Grateful4you I love Palm Springs and visit 2-3 times a years. Ironically changing one desert environment for another one ( I live in Phoenix) Like you, however, I am not a bar fan.
@Pauly I lived in Az. for quite a few years, (The Verde Valley) Did two restaurants then moved to Jerome which I really loved, it was like a flashback to the 60's there, Love it!
Pauly · 70-79, M
@Grateful4you I love going to Jerome! Such a fun town to explore!
SW-User
I’m too afraid to get into another one but I do wish you luck 🌸
@SW-User Kind of the same boat? Dang!
SW-User
Take it slow listen to your instincts and remember compassion isn’t complete if it doesn’t include oneself 🌸@Grateful4you
@SW-User Words from the wise and beautifully said.
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@MalteseFalconPunch Sure, a hopeless romantic HALF my age.(as is the lad in question) I guess I'll continue to write, he must think between the wrinkles is an element of cuteness. LOL...we have one thing in common (sarcasm) so between the Agony and Ecstasy of sex we can insult each other.
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BalmyNites · F
It’s better to regret the things you have done, than the things you haven’t done 💜
Pauly · 70-79, M
I am truly sorry for your loss. we can easily connect at a soul level with those we meet on the Internet. We can share our deepest feelings and desires with those with whom we share common ground.
SW-User
RubySoo · 56-60, F
Im sorry for your loss.
Get out into the real world to find yourself a new love.
I wish you well xxx
SW-User
been there, dun that. it's never worth it.
SW-User
Are you the age you put on your pfp? If so I’d say yes
SW-User
I think they're a crazy waste of time
Justenjoyit · 61-69, M
Good luck👍️
Mrsbetweenfatandfit · 26-30, F
Nothing ventured nothing earned. But I would definitely encourage you to meet sooner than later

 
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