The Qualities of a Righteous Husband
The best among men is the one who is best to his wife. A truly good person is someone with the best character, and the best character is shown in how he treats his wife. It’s easy to appear well-mannered in public because we only meet people briefly, just enough time to be polite or even put on an act. But true character shows in how we treat those closest to us, especially our wives, who are with us through the ups and downs every single day. So, if we want to be the best version of ourselves, the first step is to focus on being the best husband we can be. Being a great husband, one that makes his wife feel proud and never want to replace him, is a huge source of blessings and reward.
The Best Righteous Husband are those who:
1. Treat their wives with noble character. Choosing kind words and bringing happiness to your wife's heart is a form of charity. Your wife should be the number one person who receives the best of your character and treatment.
2. Fulfill their wife's desires and intimacy needs.
There was once a man who was so focused on worship and spiritual practice that he neglected his wife’s physical and emotional needs. One of his companions reminded him by saying, “Your Lord has a right over you, your body has a right over you, and your wife has a right over you, so give each their due.”
There was also a leader in the past who made a national decision to rotate his soldiers back home every four months, just so they could return to their wives. The purpose was clear, so their wives could fulfill their desires with their husbands.
From these two examples, we can see that even the noble acts of worshipping God or serving one's country are not valid excuses to ignore a wife's right to intimacy. If neglecting her needs for such honorable reasons gets criticized, then how much more so for neglect caused by laziness or distractions that aren't even important?
A great husband is someone who makes his wife feel attracted to him, who knows how to be romantic, and who is loving and attentive in their intimate relationship.
3. Provide for their wife's needs.
A good husband takes responsibility for his wife's well-being by providing her with the best possible living conditions.A safe and comfortable home, reliable transportation, a good neighborhood, healthy and nutritious food, and reasonable entertainment. There’s an important principle, Obligatory acts carry greater reward and virtue than voluntary ones. So when we give money to orphans or the poor, which is a recommended act, we often feel happy and rewarded for it. But providing for our wife is a obligatory responsibility, which means the reward is even greater. That should make us even more joyful and willing when spending on our wife, knowing it holds higher value in the eyes of God. So don’t be stingy with your wife supporting her generously, it’s a path to great reward.
4. Be patient with your wife’s shortcomings.
There’s a story of a man who once complained to his teacher about his wife. The teacher replied simply, “Heavenly maidens belong in paradise, not in this world.” Our wives are human, just like us. They’re not perfect, they have flaws, just as we do. So be patient, and don’t let the things you dislike about your wife make you forget everything you love about her. Focus on her good qualities, remember her kindness.
5. Keep your wife's secrets.
The worst kind of husband is the one who talks about what happens in the bedroom with his wife. Lock those matters tightly, without any gaps, like a secret sealed with a strong padlock. Whatever flaws or private things your wife has, protect them fully. Not even an animal, a plant, let alone another human, should know about them.
6. Make your wife a discussion partner and involve her in decisions.
Include your wife in your matters, ask for her thoughts and involve her when making decisions. After all, a husband and wife are a team, working together when it comes to making decisions.
7. Share in helping your wife with daily tasks.
Sweeping, mopping, doing laundry, washing dishes, cooking, shopping, fixing things. These aren’t just your wife’s duties. They’re your responsibility too, and you have a part to play in doing them.
8. Be independent.
A good husband provides for himself and his wife without relying on others. He can make decisions for his wife and family without outside interference or being overly influenced by others.
9. Make your wife your best friend for fun and conversation.
10. Encourage your wife during tough times.
Be her supporter and shoulder to lean on when she’s sad or down. Keep standing by her side to motivate and help her keep fighting, especially when she makes mistakes or faces failures.
11. Don’t compare your wife to other women.
12. Teach your wife to focus on the hereafter.
I’m writing this for myself. I hope I can become the best husband for my future wife. If you’re reading this and find it helpful, I’m glad to know it has benefited you.
The Best Righteous Husband are those who:
1. Treat their wives with noble character. Choosing kind words and bringing happiness to your wife's heart is a form of charity. Your wife should be the number one person who receives the best of your character and treatment.
2. Fulfill their wife's desires and intimacy needs.
There was once a man who was so focused on worship and spiritual practice that he neglected his wife’s physical and emotional needs. One of his companions reminded him by saying, “Your Lord has a right over you, your body has a right over you, and your wife has a right over you, so give each their due.”
There was also a leader in the past who made a national decision to rotate his soldiers back home every four months, just so they could return to their wives. The purpose was clear, so their wives could fulfill their desires with their husbands.
From these two examples, we can see that even the noble acts of worshipping God or serving one's country are not valid excuses to ignore a wife's right to intimacy. If neglecting her needs for such honorable reasons gets criticized, then how much more so for neglect caused by laziness or distractions that aren't even important?
A great husband is someone who makes his wife feel attracted to him, who knows how to be romantic, and who is loving and attentive in their intimate relationship.
3. Provide for their wife's needs.
A good husband takes responsibility for his wife's well-being by providing her with the best possible living conditions.A safe and comfortable home, reliable transportation, a good neighborhood, healthy and nutritious food, and reasonable entertainment. There’s an important principle, Obligatory acts carry greater reward and virtue than voluntary ones. So when we give money to orphans or the poor, which is a recommended act, we often feel happy and rewarded for it. But providing for our wife is a obligatory responsibility, which means the reward is even greater. That should make us even more joyful and willing when spending on our wife, knowing it holds higher value in the eyes of God. So don’t be stingy with your wife supporting her generously, it’s a path to great reward.
4. Be patient with your wife’s shortcomings.
There’s a story of a man who once complained to his teacher about his wife. The teacher replied simply, “Heavenly maidens belong in paradise, not in this world.” Our wives are human, just like us. They’re not perfect, they have flaws, just as we do. So be patient, and don’t let the things you dislike about your wife make you forget everything you love about her. Focus on her good qualities, remember her kindness.
5. Keep your wife's secrets.
The worst kind of husband is the one who talks about what happens in the bedroom with his wife. Lock those matters tightly, without any gaps, like a secret sealed with a strong padlock. Whatever flaws or private things your wife has, protect them fully. Not even an animal, a plant, let alone another human, should know about them.
6. Make your wife a discussion partner and involve her in decisions.
Include your wife in your matters, ask for her thoughts and involve her when making decisions. After all, a husband and wife are a team, working together when it comes to making decisions.
7. Share in helping your wife with daily tasks.
Sweeping, mopping, doing laundry, washing dishes, cooking, shopping, fixing things. These aren’t just your wife’s duties. They’re your responsibility too, and you have a part to play in doing them.
8. Be independent.
A good husband provides for himself and his wife without relying on others. He can make decisions for his wife and family without outside interference or being overly influenced by others.
9. Make your wife your best friend for fun and conversation.
10. Encourage your wife during tough times.
Be her supporter and shoulder to lean on when she’s sad or down. Keep standing by her side to motivate and help her keep fighting, especially when she makes mistakes or faces failures.
11. Don’t compare your wife to other women.
12. Teach your wife to focus on the hereafter.
I’m writing this for myself. I hope I can become the best husband for my future wife. If you’re reading this and find it helpful, I’m glad to know it has benefited you.
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