Talking stage but more emotional..guy admits to having a fwb and won't stop it. You:

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Act like nothing bothers you, bc it truly doesn't. He isn't yours yet.

Talk to him about it because it hurts you. He listens, but still doesn't put an end to it. You stay.

Everything in 2nd answer, above, except that you leave..because fuck that, you are the prize.

Wonder why I have made this oddly specific poll.

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writhe

Act like nothing bothers you and it will be just a talking stage until you or him grow out of it and stop talking too.
If you talk to him about it bothering you and he continues, then you stay in the "talking stage" with someone who officially doesn't care that much about you. If he stops with the fwb (is there even a little hope for it?) then you have a chance beyond the talking stage.
Whether you leave now or not, if he continues with the fwb, the result will be the same. Either he will stop talking to you or you will. But the risk here is if you are invested emotionally since you can't control his actions, when and how you stop talking to him will impact your emotional well being.
Better control your own self, your own actions, set your own boundaries (just like he did set the boundary that he won't stop with the fwb) and do not rely on anyone else to do it for you.
Happy new year!

foldedunfolding · 41-45, F

@writhe very well said..and i appreciate the detail and thought you poured into this response! i kinda feel like ok..i have already cried over you..do i want to do this again? his personality is not something i can easily find again tho 😔😪