How do I make myself seem interesting, if I join a dating site?

Since being single for a year, and a few years before the divorce, I lost hope and became a recluse...more like a semi-recluse because I had to shop for food, and go to medical appointments.

This last year, losing so much in my life, I was severely depressed, and wanted to be alone, despite feeling very lonely. So if I want to start dating now (and I'm still reluctant and unsure that I do), how do I make myself worth knowing when I've been living like a hermit for a while?

I want to be authentic, but I don't think "older reclusive female, suffering from depression, but would like to meet friends for shared interests," is going to cut it. Oh yeah, last date was more than 27-years ago. 😏

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Carissimi, I had a very similar situation except I am widower instead of divorce and became reclusive,and got lonely. Well, the dating site can work wonders and you should get out there and try dating. I started dating thru Our Time.com, only really comfortable there since I want my own age group, I am 58 and prefer ladies around 60-62 for dating. First thing, there are thousands of people on that site that are not right for you! You need to just be yourself on your profile,tell what you enjoy if you enjoy watching Netflix (very popular with online dating people), if you like to cook,or not, just be honest and use a fairly recent photo, don't post too many photos. The hard part, patience, days will go by and you will see nobody that is even close to what you are looking for,then all of a sudden, they show up and you click! Also, my first big mistake was I found a woman that lived 5 hours away from me, and I tried dating her because, I was super attracted to her, it ended badly. I have been out with a total of 4 ladies all from that site since December of last year,it took me exactly one year and one month from my wife's death to determine that I was ready for dating, one ended badly,one was a mismatch,one was very nice but decided dating and relationship was too much, and the one I am seeing now, is the best and really seems to be a relationship that is gonna last.