How do I make myself seem interesting, if I join a dating site?

Since being single for a year, and a few years before the divorce, I lost hope and became a recluse...more like a semi-recluse because I had to shop for food, and go to medical appointments.

This last year, losing so much in my life, I was severely depressed, and wanted to be alone, despite feeling very lonely. So if I want to start dating now (and I'm still reluctant and unsure that I do), how do I make myself worth knowing when I've been living like a hermit for a while?

I want to be authentic, but I don't think "older reclusive female, suffering from depression, but would like to meet friends for shared interests," is going to cut it. Oh yeah, last date was more than 27-years ago. 😏

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firefall · 61-69, M

Brush up on popular TV series & current movies (to give adequate small talk), beyond that be open but not fulsome ... list your interests, state what you're looking for: outright dishonesty doesnt pay, but framing things in a gentle and appealing fashion, shading, without being brutally frank, seems both acceptable and successful as an approach.

"Older female, somewhat shy, but wanting friends to discuss archery, bridge and socialism" is more likely to find someone on your wavelength without putting people off.

( of course, "Older woman looking for young men to plundrt & take advantage of" probably gets you a lot of results too, but not so likely to yield what you want 😀)