How do I make myself seem interesting, if I join a dating site?

Since being single for a year, and a few years before the divorce, I lost hope and became a recluse...more like a semi-recluse because I had to shop for food, and go to medical appointments.

This last year, losing so much in my life, I was severely depressed, and wanted to be alone, despite feeling very lonely. So if I want to start dating now (and I'm still reluctant and unsure that I do), how do I make myself worth knowing when I've been living like a hermit for a while?

I want to be authentic, but I don't think "older reclusive female, suffering from depression, but would like to meet friends for shared interests," is going to cut it. Oh yeah, last date was more than 27-years ago. 😏

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JakeShade · 61-69, M

Well, I have been on dating sites some and can say that you don't need much to get *attention*... your pic here is plenty to get attention, though you may not want (only) the kind of attention that comes when men see a "pretty face".

I tried a couple of sites that I thought fit my demographic/interest but discovered how wrong I was. I settled in on "Green Singles" which happens to be another face for "Spiritual Singles" as well. You may find (from what I see of your readings of Rumi, Krishnamurti, and Thich Nat Hahn) a good fit as well.

Maybe you need a dating agent? I volunteer...

My last dating period was roughly 24 years ago, so I know the challenge!

I too have been depressed and somewhat reclusive... I didn't put that in my profile, but *do* share it (gently) with anyone who begins to connect, and unsurprisingly most if not all of them have had their own bouts with such things... the question is whether their version and mine are compatible.

I've found that by allowing myself to "meet" and get to know women far enough from my geographic that I'm not going to meet them casually or easily that I am learning my own interests and nature a little... enough to start dating "locally" (if carefully).