How to recognize an emotional abuser?

They will always send you on some guilt trip or another, and it will always be your fault, one way or another. Everything they do is out of love, so they are the innocent 'victim'.

You come away from every encounter feeling like you've been looking into a funhouse mirror. You say perfectly reasonable things but what he says back in response is alarmingly hurtful and as if you said something totally different or outrageous

When they seek to control you not by physical abuse but a mental state rather it's something so small that sets them off or much larger. Either way not a healthy situation to be in because it always seems to escalate to much serious situation.

They usually exhibit passive-aggressive behaviour, they'll make comments that will make you feel bad somehow, but it's not a direct criticism.

No matter what you do, it's never good enough. But if you make mistakes, all hell will break loose.

Everything is your fault.

You end up being anxious over everything that you do, because you're constantly worrying that they'll be displeased.

An emotional abuser will often try and warp your sense of self. You might notice you always feel bad when you interact with them.

The big red flag is gaslighting. They will try to get you to adopt a false narrative. Maybe not even about you at first. Then from there they make everything your fault and tell you they never said that hurtful thing you know they screamed at you in rage yesterday or even hours ago.

If they get offended over every little thing you do and try to make you feel bad about it.. ( ͡° ͡ °)

When they know best you have mental disorder and can't help to stop triggering, even escalate it for fun

Guage your emotional energy level after each contact with that person...abusers leave you feeling drained

What scares me most that many women live in fear of partners and believe that it is - normal.

I prefer not to show the physical bruises I had

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