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peternoc · 70-79, M
No. You talk. Figure out new rules. Work it out. Don't be so ready to dump your relationships. (says the poly guy)

no. I have when I was very young. not now, ever.
Newandimproved · 70-79, M
I have
you forgive
but you don't forget
WildHeart · 41-45, F
@Newandimproved: True :)
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I get that people make mistakes...I'd have no problem forgiving...hard to say about actually staying with them though. A lot of factors could play into it that would possibly make me want to try to make it work...but I don't know if trust ever fully comes back from something like that.
WildHeart · 41-45, F
@TotalEclipse: Yeah this makes alot of sense.
newgirl · 56-60, F
I have. And he cheated again. That's typically what happens I've heard.
WildHeart · 41-45, F
@newgirl: So apparently "once a cheater always a cheater"
newgirl · 56-60, F
I think odds are they will cheat again.
sometimeslonelytoo · 51-55, M
Possibly. It depends on the situation exactly.
sometimeslonelytoo · 51-55, M
Forgiveness, for me, implies that the act was wrong; not that it was acceptable. Also it is our having choice in all matters and being human that causes us to err, I believe. I take it you would never forgive what you regard as cheating?
WildHeart · 41-45, F
@sometimeslonelytoo: No this is one mistake I dont believe deserves forgiveness.
sometimeslonelytoo · 51-55, M
We differ on that then :-)
I would find it very difficult to do, That's to much trust to lose for me. I would always be wondering & I don't need that kind of stress in my life .. takes to much energy
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Her cheating was on emotional level but headed toward more .. we stayed together, though I'm not sure it was for the best. Time will tell.
WildHeart · 41-45, F
@4everman: I hope all works out well for you both.
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As do I, thanks.
SagePoet · 70-79, M
I did and it was never the same, that's before I knew better, now, no way, but I am not as I once was...
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Tough to answer. But my girl did take me. luckily.
WildHeart · 41-45, F
@Indianboy77: You are lucky. May I ask?

Why did you cheat?
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@Indianboy77: Will text in PM..She did punish me too
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What guarantee they wont do it again?
WildHeart · 41-45, F
@coolbeans: I guess there is no guarantee.
It would require me to have been with someone in the first place but, no
fun4us2b · M
They cheated to get away - so might try to get away again...
WildHeart · 41-45, F
@fun4us2b: Shouldn't love conquer all?
fun4us2b · M
@WiseGirl: Can it conquer vanity? Perhaps over time, making timing important.
fun4us2b · M
@WiseGirl: Hence your qualifier in the word "Ever" with that the answer becomes "maybe"
R5000 · 41-45, M
I nearly did. htanks goodness i didint!!
Primnproper · 56-60, F
Definitely not..
Degbeme · 70-79, M
I`m not sure really.
LJW35 · 41-45, F
WildHeart · 41-45, F
@LJW35: Why not? what if they are sorry and recognize their mistake, will you still not forgive?
BlueRaine · 51-55, F
@WiseGirl: once a cheater, always a cheater
WildHeart · 41-45, F
@onestarrynight: Why?
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Because i could never trust them again..
with anything..
Subsumedpat · 36-40, M
Not likely but life is too short, humans are too flawed and some things are too hard to find to say never .
Fishy · 36-40, F
Micromint · 41-45, F
Yes, I would. But I know most would not. Monogamy doesn't come as natural to humans as is does birds.
that's just my opinion. 😊
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WildHeart · 41-45, F
@km1980: Don't you believe in second chances?
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@WiseGirl: i dont think cheating deserves second chance
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Selah ·
How do people do that? Im too petty & vindictive. He would likely not want to stay with me anyway unless hes a masochist.
BlueRaine · 51-55, F
In real life? In my 20's yes. Now, hell no.
Starkizzed21 · 31-35, F
My husband took me back. I broke his heart. He turned to drugs. And our lives just blew up. He has since cheated on me and gone through treatment, and we are working it out.

You don't know what you have til it's gone is so true. I realized how bad I fucked up. He still tells me he doesn't hold it against me.
WildHeart · 41-45, F
@Starkizzed21: :(
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lillyd · F
Only if you're a masochist
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I did in high school. I was so dumb and insecure.
BabyLonia · F
Not a black and white answer.
Fuck no, are you high 🤔
@WiseGirl: I wish ,well actually I wish I was in the bar 😣
WildHeart · 41-45, F
@Nunlover: What's stopping you?
@WiseGirl: work ,responsibilities

 
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