Why do women on dating sites not even reply in messages

I've been looking at match.com and if I find a funny profile or something that really makes me smile, I message them and say than you, it was very funny. Or I love your smile in such and such picture, then I tell them I hope they are having a very good day. It's not like I'm asking them out or being creepy or anything. Am I?

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PrincessVelvet · F

Awww 😢. I know I would be very selective. I think what you're seeing is how impersonal those sites are. In other words how easy it is to throw messages away and not think anything of it or understand someone was interested and took their time to write a genuine message. Maybe your messages aren't engaging enough. If all you're saying is hello and giving compliments well then thanks... have a nice day. Ask questions, and write something that can't be interpreted as generic. Good-luck!

chrisCA · M

@PrincessVelvet: I have heard that some guys will copy and paste the same message to many women.

convertedshell · 46-50, M

@PrincessVelvet: That's the thing. They sometimes have to do with stuff in their profile that I like. Witty ways they state feelings or statements about life or their views. I expect people to be selective on the sites. It would be stupid to not be. I guess my whole problem is just that I'm not being realistic enough. Why should anyone respond. The world has started to be less personable. Some of these women write that they are looking for kind and honest people. I totally understand that. I just figure if I am writing a few sentences to you about things in your profile, might I maybe be worth at least sending a thank you or something. Not responding kind of has a negative effect on us "nice guys" feelings/egos. It's not like I'm asking for a response if I typed "uga...you pretty....you date me". Am I wrong?

convertedshell · 46-50, M

@chris62ca: Yeah, no way I'd do that. If I'm messaging it's cause there's something specific about your profile that I'm liking, interested in, commenting about. Can't copy paste that. Unless all you're saying is "I like your pictures" or "you're pretty". That's very generic. But commenting about a specific thing said in the middle of the profile, I would think shows you cared about what she wrote so you're not just trolling for anyone.

chrisCA · M

@convertedshell: One complaint women have is that they feel that men do not take the time to read their profile.

convertedshell · 46-50, M

@chris62ca: I guess that's what gets me a little confused. I understand that complaint. It's why I figured talking about something in their profile I liked would show I cared about reading about her and her thoughts.