Why do women on dating sites not even reply in messages

I've been looking at match.com and if I find a funny profile or something that really makes me smile, I message them and say than you, it was very funny. Or I love your smile in such and such picture, then I tell them I hope they are having a very good day. It's not like I'm asking them out or being creepy or anything. Am I?

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convertedshell · 46-50, M

I did feel akward once cause there was a waitress in a place I was eating at by myself that I thought was cute. I felt horrible cause I was being texted by a female friend at work and she was saying just ask if she's seeing anyone. It will help your confidence to just ask. So I did. She said she was engaged and I said congratulations. She came back later and gave me more water smiling and said it was very bold of me to ask. I felt like a creep then though so I still gave her a big tip. I'm a lost cause trying to make an introduction. No matter the situation I feel like a creep saying anything in person. lol

convertedshell · 46-50, M

@convertedshell: Believe it or not, that was the first time I ever asked someone in person who I thought was cute if they were seeing anyone. On the one hand, it seemed polite to do. But on the other it seems creepy to me. I didn't see a ring on her hand so I figured it was her way of saying no thank you. I mean it's her job. I totally understand. I'd hate getting hit on at work. It's just so hard to figure out what the right thing to do is.

JustLikeGreta · F

@convertedshell:
better to meet women in other venues. Perhaps take a class, or have friends or relatives set you up with someone. Waitresses get hit on all the time.

convertedshell · 46-50, M

@ColleenOhara: I know, that's why I was feeling really nervous doing it. It's why I didn't want to but I figured if my friend who is a married woman said it would help me start to feel better, I'd try it. I've tried the setup thing. Got some friends knowing I'd love to meet some people they think might match up with me. Infact doing that I've got my first friend outside of work here. I liked her but she wanted just friends so I was okay with that. Still gave her the Oakly sunglasses I had planned to buy for her birthday. I loved the look on her face when I ask "where these the ones you liked?" She couldn't say yes cause of the price but I didn't care. She went through a divorce as well and I wanted to get her something she enjoyed. Nothing expected in return. A gift from a friend. Baked her a birthday cake as well cause she always baked her own before.