what would you do

I've been dating this guy for almost 6 months and I'm practically living at his place. I like living here but I do feel like its too soon to be living with him. I dont want to leave because he said he'll feel lonely and hes so accustomed to living alone and its nice to have somebody here with him. But the thing is, sometimes, I feel like Im by myself when I'm with him. We havent said I love you to each other when I am saying it inside my head to him, Im waiting for him to say it.
Look the thing is, Im trying to figure if I should keep waiting for this guy or move back to my own place. I cater to him like nobody else, placed him on pedestal, i care for him deeply, very sweet and show him a lot of loving yet sometimes he holds back with me. For instance, today, I asked about the future and is he the type of guy to have a baby. He said he doesnt plan on having one soon. Im on the same page, i dont want one right now but I wouldnt want one when Im at the age of 35 (which is the age that he would want one). What do you think?

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Hanging2 · 51-55, M

What does your gut instinct say?

Misskc23 · 31-35, F

@Hanging2: well my gut instinct isnt always right. Ive brought up this question before and today, he said that he wants to wait till his 35 or above. and just avoided my gaze for maybe a good awkward 15seconds. I think the fact that he looked away pretty much said that he has no plan now or in the future. and im not sure if its a baggage formed from a former relationship

Hanging2 · 51-55, M

@Misskc23: You are way over thinking this.
You know that there is no long term future in this but still persist. I don't necessarily understand your reasons but his actions are speaking volumes to me. If you leave he will survive. Go and get a fresh breath of air, because at the moment you are drowning.

Misskc23 · 31-35, F

Why do you say that there isnt any long term future in this? hes met my parents and he wants me involved with his as well (even though sometimes I tell him why so, why the need for me to be there...sometimes i like to fish for a certain answer)

Hanging2 · 51-55, M

@Misskc23: Its in his actions. You are taking what he says at face value. What does he do to prove that he wants to be with you? He has grown very comfortable to the living arrangements and will now not be able to change.
I am sorry to say but its like watching a train wreck happening.
If you want good advise then you should read the posts that people have replied to your questions.

Misskc23 · 31-35, F

thank you