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Men tell me something, Why do you like to be challenged in a relationship (please read and honest answers please)?

My boyfriend who I was dating for only 2 months dumped me because I wouldn't be "honest with him. He got irritated and fed up when I agree with him with mostly EVERYTHING. Like when we go on dates I usually let him pick and I agree. He said I should choose for once and I don't have to like everything he does. He also got annoyed when I agreed with him with everything. He was like, "STOP AGREEING WITH ME! For once would you DISAGREE with me?!"
I told him that I wanna make him happy and it is polite to not make someone mad thank you. And he got so annoyed with me. I always compliment him a couple of times a day, I smile all the time and all that. He told me to not agree with him to make him happy and get got after me for sugarcoating the truth about something (It's personal) and he earned me if it happens again, we're over and we've had arguments about it. I told him politely, "It isn't polite to yell and we should be calm and happy. I told him to use proper manners and he just got very irritated with me. I also tend to let people run over me but I isn't wanna make them angry. My friends are very annoyed that I'm overly nice and polite. I always say, "Thank you for having this talk with me. I am delighted that we did." My boyfriend dumped Monday because I tend to agree and sugarcoat stuff. Some people told me that overly nice and polite people are annoying and men want a challenge in a relationship? Why?
Speaking for myself only, I want a partner that would help grow as a person, challenge my thoughts, push me towards my ambitions.. I would do the same for them..

If I had a person that just agreed with everything I wanted to do, say or eat.. Then I might as well just be with myself, because other then sex, she doesn't have much to offer
MissNiceGirl · 31-35, F
@ECHO22: i still love him
@MissNiceGirl: That's okay, he may love you, but; together it will just turn into hate
Adogslife · 61-69, M
@MissNiceGirl: you don't love him. You love being needed.
SW-User
Because ,you are a fake, sorry no nice way to put that you are a nicey nice fake, but still a fake. It gets irritating being around people with whom you cannot tell what is really going on with them. Perhaps they do not feel they have the right to express themselves openly.
You want someone who can sympathize with you and cry with you when you feel badly not tell you to be something your not because the other person cannot handle reality.
RumorHasIt · F
Just be yourself.. pick your battles.. Are you like this in all your relationships? Because then you're just becoming a chameleon and that is annoying. You're just setting yourself up for failure if you're not going to be your own person with whoever you are with..
MissNiceGirl · 31-35, F
@WhycantIchangemyname: I've had only had four relationships and they all failed
Adogslife · 61-69, M
Nobody wants to fuck a doormat.
luckranger71 · 51-55, M
Frankly I think this goes both ways. Especially at the beginning of relationships.

Simple advice: be who you are and be prepared to walk away if they can't accept it.
SW-User
Well I'm going to be very honest with you. You sound very annoying and all he wanted you to do is to be real with yourself and honest with your opinions and feelings. He wanted you to be honest with him but you just kept lying it him to make him happy but it make him feel worse. Nobody wants to be with a passive, overly nice person that lies all the time. Sorry to be harsh but who wants to date a doormat. I admit I would have trouble speaking up for myself and still do at times but I say my honest feelings and not sugarcoat it. You gotta be true to yourself otherwise how are people going to respect you if you keep lying?
Notanymore · 36-40, M
People will want you for you....they want you because of who you are, not because you agree with them. You're important for the things that make you different
Llevigar · 22-25, M
Okay what the hell. To me it sounds like this dude thrives on drama.
MissNiceGirl · 31-35, F
@Llevigar: I guess
nedkelly · 61-69, M
Any wonder he dumped your sorry arse as you are a LIAR
MissNiceGirl · 31-35, F
@nedkelly: well you didn't have to be so rude!
nedkelly · 61-69, M
@MissNiceGirl: Sorry to offend you, but I am a straight talking person
MissNiceGirl · 31-35, F
@nedkelly: My sister is like that too. She told me straight up that nobody would want to be with a person like me and who always sugarcoat and lies to protect peoples feelings. She hurt my feelings but she doesn't care.
sighmeupforthat · 46-50, M
nice try. generalizing people will do only one thing for you.


make you lonely.
MissNiceGirl · 31-35, F
@sighmeupforthat: that was harsh
MethDozer · M
That is freaking annoying and frustrating. You can never trust what the person is saying to you and always leaves you guessing. He never got a chance to know you and how to relate to you because you were always just agreeing with him. It's like dating a robot.
It's not about wanting to be challenged, it's about wanting the truth and the experience of another personality.
MissNiceGirl · 31-35, F
@RiverRatGlis: My ex told me that his feels like he is dating a robot and he is bored with the relationship.
MethDozer · M
@MissNiceGirl: Not be harsh, but having that kind of partner isn't fun at all. Having someone who is always a bitch and demanding is just as bad.

Sounds like you likely lack confidence and self assuredness.

 
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