Ok a friend just came to me with a problem, who's at fault here between her and her bf? What can be of help?

Their both good people. I'm actually friends with him as well oddly enough.

Keep extream feminisem and douche dude-ness outta this. Real opinions.

They've been together a few years now and she's still very SHY about certain THINGS and can't even TALK TO HIM in a... Dirty kinda way without being all... Well shy.
(God I hate talking about this stuff but I'm trying to help her. No R rated replies okay?)

And it bothers him cause they be been together so long and yet she hasn't changed much on the subject. Believe me he's a good guy, Just this... ADULT S subject is important to him.

Its not like their gonna brake up over it but it just has caused some problems and a bit unhappiness at times.

They know each other 100%. All problems their may be and all.

Their in love and seem like they will always be. Its just as I said its causing some problems.

Should she find a way to cope and get over some things for him? (Not everything of course)

Or should he just completly be mute on the subject and deal with it even if it secretly bothers him deeply but he would be willing to suffer silently?

(Probably both are willing to suffer silently to be honest)

He's not nasty about it. He has just openly talked about that there's certain things he wants and that it bothers him she's still very shy on the subject?

So advice I can give to her?

curiosi · 61-69, F

He's NOT being unreasonable. When you have been together for a time usually it's relaxed and you let down your guard. It may be that is what is bothering him most, that after all this time she is not comfortable.

DeathAngelS300 · 26-30, F

Yeah exactly.
This is pretty much it.
Its just they've both had things happen in their lives that have... Effect their feelings and views on things.

She's that way for a reason but it bothers her as well cause she wants to make him happy but can't brake this... Thing.

I still don't know what to tell her.

curiosi · 61-69, F

@DeathAngelS300: She's got to be who she is at her core. She should however self examine to see if the cause is she doesn't like it or if shyness is getting in her way. Then she can approach him. If she doesn't like it then they will have to compromise, if it is plain shyness then she needs to work on herself.