Children of divorce, do you agree with this quote?
My parents divorced when I was 7 years old and I couldn't agree more. It still has a psychological impact on me until this day and it probably always will.
My parents divorced when I was 7 years old and I couldn't agree more. It still has a psychological impact on me until this day and it probably always will.
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plungesponge · 41-45, M
There are some scientific theories behind this. For most of human existence, life was short and plagued with death, starvation, disease and violence. The loss of a parent signaled to a child that they were living in a high danger area, so they needed a different set of skills to survive. The best strategy was to have a lot of kids young, adopt more of a "every man for himself" attitude. And we generally see this reflected in single parent families. The kids are more restless, more wild, have a higher incidence of teen pregnancy. It's just one theory, but it does explain why it has such a large impact.
AnukBinary · M
I don't know what that's like😭 my child comes from a divorced family yet we do-parent and raise him together with her family and mine. We do Christmas and his birthday and sports even mothers day and fathers day together. Her fiance and I get along great. I jus hope my son never feels this. It is one of my biggest fears that I can not control
CheshireCatalyst · 36-40, M
NineLives · 41-45, F
Yes, that is exactly the problem.
Most people say,"But my parents were better off divorced." While that may be true, every child is innocent in the situation and EVERY child deserves to have a real family with two parents.
No matter how you present it, the child is the victim who doesn't get what they need.
Most people say,"But my parents were better off divorced." While that may be true, every child is innocent in the situation and EVERY child deserves to have a real family with two parents.
No matter how you present it, the child is the victim who doesn't get what they need.
RandomUniverse · M
NineLives · 41-45, F
Oh I was aware that there were problems, but I saw them through a child's eyes.
I didn't understand why my parents couldn't just say sorry, kiss, and make up? I seriously thought that was the answer!
I didn't understand why my parents couldn't just say sorry, kiss, and make up? I seriously thought that was the answer!
RandomUniverse · M
I have always wondered which was better for the children. Stay married and miserable for the kid's sake (providing a distorted view of what a 'normal' relationship is like) or divorce, ending the conflict and both stay in the child's life?
Your thoughts?
And pardon me if this is a stupid question. I have no children, and no opinion on which would be in the child's best interest.
Your thoughts?
And pardon me if this is a stupid question. I have no children, and no opinion on which would be in the child's best interest.
NineLives · 41-45, F
@RandomUniverse: Honestly my thoughts is that no one has to live miserable.
We now live in a "me" society, where everyone puts their needs above everyone else's, including their own children's! How sad is that?
There are only a few situations where the relationship is truly lost, an example being in the case of physical abuse. Marriage is not easy! No one said it would be.
I've been married for 17 years and if I would have divorced when my husband and I had our hiccups,trust me, there were many and there are still some...I would have regretted it.
Everything we go through is a learning process that teaches one to become more selfless and your marriage becomes stronger and stronger.
So personally my answer to whether fighting parents should stay together in a miserable marriage is that they should have not let it reach that point to begin with. The number one reason for divorce is miscommunication!
One can solve even the biggest problems by learning new techniques. Your partner doesn't even have to learn these things with you.
From a psychological stand point, things do improve vastly even if only one partner makes healthier changes.
You can catch more flies with honey than vinegar.
We now live in a "me" society, where everyone puts their needs above everyone else's, including their own children's! How sad is that?
There are only a few situations where the relationship is truly lost, an example being in the case of physical abuse. Marriage is not easy! No one said it would be.
I've been married for 17 years and if I would have divorced when my husband and I had our hiccups,trust me, there were many and there are still some...I would have regretted it.
Everything we go through is a learning process that teaches one to become more selfless and your marriage becomes stronger and stronger.
So personally my answer to whether fighting parents should stay together in a miserable marriage is that they should have not let it reach that point to begin with. The number one reason for divorce is miscommunication!
One can solve even the biggest problems by learning new techniques. Your partner doesn't even have to learn these things with you.
From a psychological stand point, things do improve vastly even if only one partner makes healthier changes.
You can catch more flies with honey than vinegar.
TheMindBoggled · 26-30, M
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