Go with heart or head?

Ok so I was in a downward slope for 20 years in a marriage. Started seeing my g/f 4 years ago. We fell in love an I filed for a divorce. Not necessarily because of her but she was the prize at the end of the tunnel for sure. I left the house 11/16, eventually rented a Condo on the river, sunsets were gorgeous! But just before g/f was going to move in full time, it started getting hard to talk to her AND the wife changed 180 degrees.. between hormones and what the Church was saying was wrong about marriage. And tge hormones brought her out of a 20 year depression.
My mind convinced me to move back home. My heart is still with the g/f for the most part. But the wife hasn't really had a chance to change the heart but has potiental. Now as a guy, the stuff an comfort is important to me, with the g/f it would be a few years before I could get back to a lifestyle I was comfortable with....
So after all that, heart or head?

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CaptMike2 · M

Status update... been back home for alost a month, closed out the Condo with the g/f (boy was that hard, we did have one last time in the bed, she's amazing) anyway it was very hard such a great place, magical place with her.. the potential has no bounds. What we could do together.. when we walked into a room together we owned it. It wasn't me or her (she's stunning) but it was both of us together. But in order to get to that potential I'd have to go through hell....
There is potential with the wife too but not as great, and it's easy to move back home, carry on with the changed wife. My daughter is happy I'm back. I've made changes at home an the wife is all in. We had sex on the boat last night an it was really good.. can't say we made love, yet. I have my lifestyle back an I guess that means a lot to me, right or wrong. Just wish there was an easier path to the g/f.