Why does some parents find it hard to say I love you or show affections to their kids and things like that?

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SW-User

It's how they were brought up. I wasn't really shown much parental love in my life growing up, so if I had a kid, I would have a really hard time showing affection...so having kids probably wouldn't be for me at the moment.

Serenitree · F

Maybe not right now, but when you do, you can acknowledge that lack in your childhood and make up your mind that your child will get hugs and be told, every day, that they are loved. Especially when they misbehave. Discipline is important, but withholding the love and comfort of a hug should not be part of the punishment. Immediately after their time out, the need a hug and an I love you, even if they say they don't love you or they hate you, they need to know that they can't make you stop loving them. That's called emotional security, and we all need it.

Feb. 10/17
4:13 pm

SW-User

@Serenitree: That's right. I will keep notice of everything that was missing in my childhood and make sure that he or she is raised correctly. A child should be given confidence and emotional satisfaction. I was always told of what I "can't do, you'll fail at it" rather than, "you can do it, I believe in you",so that has destroyed my self confidence. I'll give praises and see him or her reach their goals in life.

Serenitree · F

@Ballisticboy: that made my eyes tear and sent a shiver up my spine. If you can do that, you will have very lucky children.

🤗

Feb. 10/17
4:22 pm