You haven't done anything wrong, you haven't broken any laws. Your conscience is clear so you should not give any importance to what people in your hometown may think. You made a mistake dating that man but that's it, everyone makes mistakes. Sooner or later, people will stop speculating or rumor-mongering as time passes, if they are even doing that. Surely some might even feel bad that you got involved with such a person. But it's best for your safety that you don't let him contact you again.

My advice is find someone to talk to. A professional if possible but at a minimum someone you trust but who has no connection to you or the situation emotionally.


Here's why. You need someone to help you unpack and deconstruct this from a purely evidence based, logical perspective. Catastrophic thought patterns that we fall into during traumatic events can from your own perspective seem entirely rational in the moment until someone can talk you through it logically without emotion.

Until that can happen being able to trust your decision making is based on the reality of the situation vs an emotional, panic based worse case scenario is very very hard.

And until that can happen making good decisions will be a challenge.

That being said stuff like sorting out your license is a good first step.

There is no way you could've known about anything he did before you got together. You don't need to feel emabarrased either. Your ex's choices are just that: his choices. You are not responsible for anything he chooses to do. Don't worry about what your family thinks either. I couldn't care less about what my sister's exes are doing, and I doubt your mom will care about this one either.

If you feel this is too much, I would consult a professional for help. Having a psychologist help you work though it will prevent these triggers from coming again.

You did nothing wrong.

If you go back to that town and someone acts oddly toward you, why not bring up the subject of your ex yourself, and make it clear what you think of him, and that you had no knowledge of what he had done. You can hold your head up high.

Definitely get on the Tea app if your dating and don’t be afraid to run background checks, you can never be too safe 😥

I’m sorry that happened to you

That's a tough one without knowing the charges, it makes it even harder sa. Charges, sexual assault can be extremely serious or they could be fabricated.

If a guy goes out with a woman and they sleep together and she decides the next day, she regrets it. Goes and files a police report. He will be arrested without his son ever being heard until 6-9 months later after his entire life is ruined, he's gone into debt to hire a lawyer. So yes, it could be extremely serious or it could be someone out for revenge.

Hope you can just ignore it. People might judge but you don't need to answer to them.

You aren’t responsible for another persons actions. Do not feel embarrassed at all.

I hope everything works out okay!

U really should put a little space between every few lines to make it easier to read

Oh no. Poor you. Etc