Letting go of the past… when the past won’t let go of you

Posted a new photo on social media. Feeling good and ready to start over. And then the next morning I get this email from an ex. Why do men fight harder to try to win you back after the relationship is over? Not when you are actually still in it. When you yourself still care and want to fix things. No, they think that it’s smart to try after your love is already fading away and when you accept there’s no changing his poor behaviours. After you realize that you deserve better and that you are actually happier with out them. Some advice for men. If you really do love her and don’t want to lose her. Put in the effort while she still cares to build a life with you, because once she stops caring.. there’s no fixing it.

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looking4thesun · M

I have to agree with you here except i believe it happens both ways. Women have the same problems after a break up. Especially if it was their actions to cause the split. No relationship is perfect and in these days of internet access and such, it seems like it's too easy to see how easy it is to move on to greener pastures even though those pastures haven't proven to be any better. Hopefully we learn from our mistakes but mostly it seems we never do.

DayDreamer3 · 36-40, F

@looking4thesun Of course women can do this too. It does go both ways and no relationship is perfect. Social media does create a never happy, must seek more mind set. It’s sad. That’s all we can do. Learn from our mistakes and past and move forward to create something better.

looking4thesun · M

@DayDreamer3 🙂 exactly. I will say i think social media has ruined more relationships than it has helped

DayDreamer3 · 36-40, F

@looking4thesun oh a 100%. It’s so toxic. I would love it if it no longer existed. Let’s just go back to the old days.

looking4thesun · M

@DayDreamer3 i have long said that i think smart phones are going to be the downfall of man/woman kind

DayDreamer3 · 36-40, F

@looking4thesun Technology already wiped us out. Everyone just doesn't see it yet. We are programmed what to think, feel, how to look, what to want and need, how to live. The only way to freedom now is to live of grid and away from it all.

Magenta · F

@looking4thesun Spot on.

looking4thesun · M

@DayDreamer3 and it's not going to get sny better anytime soon

DayDreamer3 · 36-40, F

@looking4thesun Do you guys want to buy land together? lol 😂

looking4thesun · M

@DayDreamer3 sure old style commune

DayDreamer3 · 36-40, F

@looking4thesun yes exactly. Everyone would be happier living closer to nature and with less physical and mental clutter. Sign me up

looking4thesun · M

@DayDreamer3 sounds idyllic. I would go in a flash