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How do I tell my 60 year old friend with mental disorder that she can’t wear booty shorts and bras outside.

I’m a live in caregiver for my friend who is 60 she has a intellectual disability that makes it hard for her to pay bills for her self cook and clean and do errands on her own. She is still very high functioning but I don’t think she really mentally understands what her body looks like at her age and how inappropriate it is for her to come outside in booth shorts and a bra. I think she has delusions and sometimes it comes off as being rude and cocky but I chalk it up to her disorder. She doesn’t even remember to take a shower unless I tell her too, but she wants to argue with me about her clothing choice. I was told I’m the first person to give her decent amount of allowance and lets her pick out her own clothes. I want to give her hefreedom and let her pick out her own clothes but everytime I do she goes and gets booty shorts and clothes out the junior section. I’m not a professional I took her in last year because non of her family members could at the time. If you ask her everyone who was a caregiver before me was too strict and controlling but it’s really her lack of self awareness and cocky attitude. For example she told me a story of how her sister would humiliate her about not taking baths or having good hygiene, but when I try to help her with her hygiene or appearance It’s often a struggle. It’s always someone else’s fault and never hers. I try to get her to understand that she has to be well taken care of and presentable because the state can check in anytime. I just wanted to know if there’s anyone out there who ever dealt with this from there special needs friend or family. Thank you sorry if it’s tmi
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Jungleman · M
you can't tell her anything, she can do what she wants.
Lexiitexii · 31-35, F
@Jungleman that’s true but I stoped the state from being able to pick her up 9 months ago and if they see grandma in bra and panties out in about with me because she has a arrogant attitude about putting clothes on. Then I’ll get in trouble. I just told her straight today that there are outfits that are respectable and stylish and I can help her find those but I can’t let her go out half not even half dressed with me. She was still kinda snappy because in her mind everyone is out to get her and everyone is jealous of her but no she just looks a fkn mess. I been nothing but calm and patient but here is where I can vent.