I used to believe that when someone broke up with me, it was there loss.
I’m starting to think it’s just a me thing and I’m not as good as I thought I was
46-50, F
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jademonkey19 · 41-45, T
I think it can be both? There's a theory I like, called Imago, which states that we tend to be attracted to people who are likely to hurt us in the way we were hurt as children. I might have the theory slightly wrong, but that's what I took from it.
It's mathematical in many ways. When someone we love hurts us, the wound is deeper; but we often chase the qualities we find attractive even though they may lead us down the same loop. Most of finding balance and peace in a relationship is learning to escape that loop--while being aware that our partner might not be ready to escape theirs.
It's mathematical in many ways. When someone we love hurts us, the wound is deeper; but we often chase the qualities we find attractive even though they may lead us down the same loop. Most of finding balance and peace in a relationship is learning to escape that loop--while being aware that our partner might not be ready to escape theirs.