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How do I stop neighbors from trying to take advantage of mentally disabled friend that I take care of Legally.

I Legally have to manage the finances of my friend who is mentally disabled. She is still able bodied she about 53 and when I met her I thought she was older because of her mannerisms. I helped her get away from a physically abusive relationship almost 3 months ago. I also helped her regain access to her finances. Remove her abuser from her lease and bring her place up to code for safe and clean living. Now that her neighbors noticed that she has more freedom. They have been calling with very nosey questions and due to her disability she literally can’t stop her self from honestly answering questions, which is cool if it’s in the right hands. The bad side is she will give out her social, her passwords, she even told people how much she is receiving. I try not to be over bearing but I already explained to her that she shouldn’t tell people her important details because they could scam her. She can’t really remember that I told her that and then she will do it again. There’s a crappy neighbor guy who clearly can see she has a disability and he will call and ask her personal questions about the ex being gone and if he’s coming back and even heard her tell him how much she makes. It’s like people are trying to prey on her. She looks at me as a overbearing annoying parent now. I’m just trying to protect her. Is there anything I can say to the neighbors that is non threatening ? Or should I get the police involved. ? Cause this lady is a handful, and if I’m not able to stop people from taking advantage or if it affects her finances I could get in trouble.
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jehova · 31-35, M
I think the laws vary by state im in new york. I had a brain tumor. Had a similarvl experience as you describe. Ppl taking advantage. I am blessed family had my back. It was tough i had my identity stolen money being taken squatters a couple thefts. Id say call the cops get restraining orders as necessary. I gave my parents payee status of my disability income payments. If possible get her to move in with family. Goodluck.
Lexiitexii · 31-35, F
@jehova thank you for getting me me and her had a heart to heart she is 59 and no family to step up as her family has passed away. Im her rep payee I may or may not need to get guardian ship I’m waiting to see if her daughter can eventually step in. Today we went out to get lunch and crumbl and she told me she never wants me to leave. I literally adore her. She is like a nanna to me. I just cringe at the thought of anyone trying to hurt her as she has been through so much. I just spoil her. I’m giving her allowance starting this month, and she told me it was her first time getting so much in allowance everyone else would only give her 20 and use all her funds. We also live together and I’ll getting cameras installed. I’m going to take the best care of her as best I can. I’m glad she listens to me but sometimes she is hard headed and she likes to socialize but some people I just want her to be careful of. Those people know I don’t play about her. So I don’t think they going to try something.