The rear view effects

This Thursday will officially be 2 months since we last spoke and a single day hasn't passed without me thinking of them. Somedays, I feel so empowered and pat myself on the shoulder for making the choice to walk away and on other days, I feel my heart ripping through my chest. I keep hoping that they reach out but praying they continue to keep their distance and let me heal. I am scheduled to fly home in December and before we spilt they knew about my plans to be home for the holidays. I keep hoping that they reach out and we meet up and have a conversation but deep down I know this wont change a thing and I'd just make matters worse.

On the other hand, I feel like when I return here after the holidays without them making contact, I'll finally be in a place where I fully accept things for what they are and truly move on. I believe then id be in a position to push back should they ever choose to reach out in the future.

Right now, I'm really missing them.

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REMsleep · 41-45, F

Getting over people takes time I didn't read any of your past posts so I don't know your situation but time truly does make the memories a little fuzzier and you will get over it.

Especially if you know that you're doing the right thing for yourself, you're going to move on in your heart at some point.
I'm not saying that every now and then you won't have a little pang of what could have been but at the end of the day that's what it takes to live a good life. Making those hard choices and I have not always made the hard choices so I'm telling you as a person who could do better myself.

Alifeinterrupted · 31-35, F

@REMsleep you're absolutely right in saying this. I know my choice to walk away was the best one and I'll continue to stand by it even in the face of adversary. Somedays I just really miss our conversations and wish I could take up the phone and call them during an extremely hard day. Its really painful not having that avenue again.

Thanks a lot for your kind encouraging words