How do I let it go?

Recently separated from someone I've been involved with because they decided to be with someone else. I cant seem to shake all those hurtful words I told them and its been replaying in my head. Mind you, they did say some pretty hurtful stuff to me too but for some reason, I felt like I never should've said what I did.

Its been a very toxic situation with us and its like even though they wanted to be friends and stay in touch, I decided to go no contact to protect my peace and heal. All this happened last weekend.

Do you think I should reach out to apologize for those things I said?

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LadyGrace · Best Comment

You decided to go no contact for a reason. That's the best thing you could have done. He's the one that decided to go with someone else. You both said what you had to say, and felt like you had to say, so let it go, please. You've got a lot of mixed emotions right now and I'm sure you're suffering from more than just words. This whole thing was a shock to your mind and body, so please give yourself time to heal. Sometimes it's not even the person we lost, that we grieve over, but what we thought we had. All the lies. Think about that. If you need to talk about it, then please PM me. You can get past this but love yourself enough to go on and don't look back. And never contact him again, for sure. This is what he wanted and this is what he got. You shouldn't feel guilty about anything. Love yourself enough to move on and find someone who will treat you with all the love and respect you deserve.

Alifeinterrupted · 26-30, F

@LadyGrace this is some solid advice right here! You have NO IDEA how much I needed to hear this. Thank you for taking the time to reply!

Its not easy but I reallly do believe in time, I'll be ok. I just miss the everyday conversations and the hours of talking on the phone. Ultimately, none of that meant nothing because I just someone they killed time with until something better comes along and tbh, its just the rejection im struggling with

LadyGrace ·

@Alifeinterrupted I know honey. I understand. I experienced that as well. You will be okay. I had PTSD from it and I recovered by telling myself the truth. You will be okay as well. 🌹🤗 Keep your eyes focused on the future and make plans to meet that special person who will treat you the way you deserve. Picture what he looks like and dream about that. He's waiting for you, as well. But next time choose more wisely. Don't fall in love too quickly. Really get to know this person and see if they will actually be a good friend to you. Actions speak louder than words. But you have to watch the words as well. So many lie these days. They don't know what love is.