How do I let it go?

Recently separated from someone I've been involved with because they decided to be with someone else. I cant seem to shake all those hurtful words I told them and its been replaying in my head. Mind you, they did say some pretty hurtful stuff to me too but for some reason, I felt like I never should've said what I did.

Its been a very toxic situation with us and its like even though they wanted to be friends and stay in touch, I decided to go no contact to protect my peace and heal. All this happened last weekend.

Do you think I should reach out to apologize for those things I said?

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Pinklemonade100 · 31-35, F

No, just get on with you life now. Learn from your mistakes and think about why you said the words you said. Write a letter apologising for the hurtful things you said, why you felt they deserved it and what you wish you could say to them. Write it all down and then throw it away-don't give it to them. It's concerning to me that within a week, this ex partner is with someone else. It seems that this person had someone else lined up and resentment was building between the two of you. This suggests that this ex partner has no respect for you and they don't deserve this compassion from you. The idea he wants to be friends is because he/she feels bad about the way they treated you and/or just wants to transition to a new partner as peacefully as possible.

Don't reach out to this person. Reach out to people who will love you and respect you xx

Fieldmaster · 46-50, M

@Pinklemonade100 good suggustion

Alifeinterrupted · 26-30, F

@Pinklemonade100 Thank you so much for saying this! You're right, they never respected me and even though they told me they loved me, I don't believe it to be true at this point. I just need to give myself time to hurt, really learn from this experience and accept that they've made their decision and Ive made mine. It's just to make peace with it and heal wholeheartedly. I can say this, they did reveal the major unhealed versions of myself that I know I need to work on.