People in their 30s can’t date cause everyone’s life is a mess.

I can’t date because I have to work like a dog everyday, then the guys who want to date me can’t date becahse they work like a dog everyday, I have dated out of my race and different tax brackets and some self employed and still can’t date up to my standards. I’ll explain why met a 33 year old he has like 3 roommates, I met a 39 year old and he still lives with his parents on his parents property. It’s annoying because everytime I hit him up he says he’s eating dinner with mommy and daddy, and mommy and daddy are sleep he can’t talk. Same thing happened when I tried to just hook up with a guy he invited me to his house I thought we were going to go in or go do something and he came to the passenger side of my car and girl chat me for 45 minutes. When I was 23 I met my ex husband and he had his life together to a extinct, he had a good job, married me in a year and then we got a house. I wasn’t prepared when my husband told me he was having a affair and made me leave. Yet I took it like a champ but towards the end of the marriage we haven’t been together for 2 years, and then add another 2 years I didn’t date when I first left. Now I’m single again and the dating pool sucks. I wish people would stop saying pasta and lobsta on TikTok because just about every race of guy just really can’t date or afford to date. I’m not trying to be mean or funny, they can’t even afford to hookup because they have no where to do it. Also I really don’t want to date too much older than me because then it just feels like I’m laying with grandpa. I’ll figure it out. Also younger guys are still interested in me and sometimes they are doing better than the guys my age and seem way happier. Like they actually have their own place, and a decent job, or at least ready for a proper date. I still look like I’m 26 so most of the time I attract younger men, Men in their 30s just seem so bitter and mad. The other night I was talking to a guy he talked on the phone about how his ex left him but she is married and doing good and he talks about her everytime we have a convo in person or on the phone. I said something to him about it and he gets butt hurt so I quit saying something and just let him vent, he’s the red flag,

Mordechai · 31-35, M

Tbh I've had the same experience dating as I just got into my 30s. A lot of people either had kids or pretty bad mental health issues, one was great but it just didn't work out.

I think comparatively to what we grew up looking at, the economy is a lot harsher than when our parents were at the same point. I had to move back in with family because of the energy, food and general economic crisis in my country while I finished a degree and worked.

My two neighbors have kids around my age and late 20s, they both work and they both can't afford to rent anywhere either 😬

I think many of us will date later in life, it's taking longer for people to find their feet. It's either that or looking at dating in a different way.

Lexiitexii · 31-35, F

@Mordechai Thanks for admitting it like a lot of people try to gaslight and act like what I’m experiencing is non existent.

Gingerbreadspice · F

In your 30s is when someone might become single again after a relationship breakdown. I know a couple of guys like this. Shit things happen to everyone and it doesn’t seem to matter where we’re but where we are going. At least in our 30s we can afford to drink good wine on a date and hold a conversation.