Did I rush into cutting contact with her?

Two weeks ago, I suggested to my girlfriend that we should cut contact because I noticed she seemed to be losing interest and acting distant. Despite asking her about it several times and her insisting that everything was fine, it didn't feel that way to me at the time. Now, looking back at our conversations, I'm starting to wonder if I was just feeling insecure and made a hasty decision to cut contact. Even though I was often the one initiating conversations, she still responded promptly and entertained me, although not with the same enthusiasm as before. If she missed my calls, she would still return them, but our conversations weren't as long or effortless as they used to be. Now I'm torn between feeling like I rushed into cutting contact and missing her terribly, and wondering if my decision was right. If I were to reach out to her now, how do you think she would react, and what should I say?

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twistedrope · 26-30, M

Imo, you were probably rushing it and should reflect. It would have been worth it to talk with her about how you felt she wasn't engaged in a conversation. Or more just you felt sad she didn't have much to say. Feeling something is pretty much one of the most important things you can trust and should talk about with those who care about you.

You weren't wrong but communication is real important for the next girl.

Arysan · 26-30, M

@twistedrope I've tried several times to talk to her about it, but she kept insisting that everything was okay. However, even if it was unintentional on her part, I could sense something changing between us at that time. I could tell because I knew how close we were and how she used to tell me everything about her day and ask about mine, but she stopped doing all those things. Anyway, I just heard from a mutual friend that she met someone around the time she started acting distant.

twistedrope · 26-30, M

@Arysan Yeah. You're right. As I said, your feeling of being sad she wasn't engaging was true. If she downplayed how you were feeling left out or sad or your feelings, that would be a bad sign and a good thing to not keep talking.

I'm sorry you had a bad experience like that.