is it normal for guys to jerk off to their girls voice?

I started dating a guy like a week ago but we’ve known each other for few years before dating, we discussed everything and decided not to be sexually intimate before marriage because both of us are date to marry people and do not believe in sex before marriage according to our religious beliefs
Couple of days ago we were on a call and I noticed that he’s jerking off to my voice, I hung up right away and he called like an hour after and I confronted him about it and told him that I’ve felt extremely uncomfortable about it. He kept apologizing, expressing regret and last night he showed up at my house crying for forgiveness
Idk if I’m making a big deal out of it or what should I do not actually know what to do
Because I’ve never been through something similar before

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RedBaron · M

What he did was an act of intimacy.

If you truly love him, why would you be uptight about it and deny him the pleasure?

If I was him, I would bail on you so fast your head would spin.

pinacoladaa · 31-35, F

@RedBaron denying him the pleasure is a thing and breaking a boundary that we’ve both discussed and set as two adults is another
and I’m so in love with him that I’m here on the internet asking strangers about it anonymously because I have no idea about the whole situation so I can at least have the bare minimum of knowledge about it to be able to do what’s best for him

RedBaron · M

@pinacoladaa And I just gave you my opinion.

Waiting to be physically intimate is one thing, but masturbation is natural and normal, not dirty or anything to be ashamed of.

Release from masturbation is quite healthy, and denying oneself that is what is abnormal and unnatural.