is it normal for guys to jerk off to their girls voice?

I started dating a guy like a week ago but we’ve known each other for few years before dating, we discussed everything and decided not to be sexually intimate before marriage because both of us are date to marry people and do not believe in sex before marriage according to our religious beliefs
Couple of days ago we were on a call and I noticed that he’s jerking off to my voice, I hung up right away and he called like an hour after and I confronted him about it and told him that I’ve felt extremely uncomfortable about it. He kept apologizing, expressing regret and last night he showed up at my house crying for forgiveness
Idk if I’m making a big deal out of it or what should I do not actually know what to do
Because I’ve never been through something similar before

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SW-User

I've never experienced this but honestly think it is much ado about nothing.

breaking some boundaries that we’ve both set together

Are you honesty expecting me to believe that the two of you discussed boundaries concerning masturbation? Please, tell me the boundaries you two discussed. You discussed no sex before marriage. Are you classifying masturbation as sex? I certainly wouldn't. And as it was one sided it doesn't fall into the phone sex realm in my opinion. He masturbated to your voice, not your words. Whether you knew or not in this particular situation doesn't sway my view. Do you tell him what/when/where/how/why when you masturbate? This is pretty much a case of him fantasizing about you while he masturbates.

pinacoladaa · 31-35, F

@SW-User We specifically discussed the whole masturbation thing. like on a call, FaceTime and even if it happened to be and we were in the same room
I completely appreciate that he desires me and finds me that attractive
But as I mentioned I never experienced something like that before
and that’s why I’m on the internet asking strangers anonymously. so I can really know if it’s a big deal or such a normal thing and it’s forgivable because I’ve felt uncomfortable and I can’t invalidate my own feelings
But I can control my actions and I can’t take an action without knowing anything about the situation itself