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OogieBoogie 路 F
I don't think they were calling you that coz you asked for soup.
They were shocked that you asked someone you barely know, to do your laundry and asked for money 馃し
They were shocked that you asked someone you barely know, to do your laundry and asked for money 馃し
Lexiitexii 路 31-35, F
@OogieBoogie He asked what I wanted also he brought me hella gifts on the first date and asked me what I wanted w/o me having to ask. Don鈥檛 like it oh well. He also bought my food once he explained what he could do out of the 3 things I asked for.
Lexiitexii 路 31-35, F
@OogieBoogie what鈥檚 the part everyone is missing he asked me what I wanted. I never begged. I never asked him he asked me.
OogieBoogie 路 F
@Lexiitexii true, true- he did.
And it was a kindness .
And you could have been gracious about it.
The thing is - there are unspoken protocols and etiquette in these situations. Generally, when a kindness like this is given - the protocol is to accept the [b]very minimal [/b]of what you need - and no more.
The second etiquette faux pas you made was to ask for money. That's a [b]huge [/b] no no .
That's crossing an unspoken boundary.
If I was to be blunt - it was rude .
Had you had a more familiar/personal or longstanding relationship with this person - those protocls could have been loosened to be more personal - but this wasn't the case, so the more formal
etiquette is followed.
But...
.....we live and learn.
If we don't make mistakes, how can we learn to be better?馃し
I can see it's not your fault you didn't know these things.
These things are taught. They are subtleties of social graces not everyone gets exposed to learning .
And it was a kindness .
And you could have been gracious about it.
The thing is - there are unspoken protocols and etiquette in these situations. Generally, when a kindness like this is given - the protocol is to accept the [b]very minimal [/b]of what you need - and no more.
The second etiquette faux pas you made was to ask for money. That's a [b]huge [/b] no no .
That's crossing an unspoken boundary.
If I was to be blunt - it was rude .
Had you had a more familiar/personal or longstanding relationship with this person - those protocls could have been loosened to be more personal - but this wasn't the case, so the more formal
etiquette is followed.
But...
.....we live and learn.
If we don't make mistakes, how can we learn to be better?馃し
I can see it's not your fault you didn't know these things.
These things are taught. They are subtleties of social graces not everyone gets exposed to learning .