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Foxanne · 31-35, M
I've been involved with an abusive girl before. I won't go into detail but she did a lot of damage. Ever since we parted I've had memories of the few good times we had, and also painful longings for what could have been if I had never seen her. It's haunting.
I can't and won't, but I have this strange feeling that seeing her once more could leave me feeling differently and fix parts of my life that she ruined.
I can't and won't, but I have this strange feeling that seeing her once more could leave me feeling differently and fix parts of my life that she ruined.
Tinkerhell · 41-45, F
You're made to believe that it's what you deserve, that things will be different. That YOU are the reason things are so bad. That you are dirt, you are worthless, you can do no better. You keep believing, until you finally wake up and don't. Then it's the shame that keeps you there. Once the shame is gone and you figure out YOU did nothing wrong...then you can move on.
silver1sil · 26-30, F
Tinkerhell · 41-45, F
silver1sil · 26-30, F
Hope is a great thing but even somethings are unfixable.
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@silver1sil: you try because you know how much you love them even knowing how fucked up they are. you give your all, your best shot because it's not often you fall for someone and it might be the last time you do...so you hide a secret little hope and that makes you come back and want to try n try till you lose your little hope
illusion of love is blind. even if its unrequited. I think a lot of people are conditioned to think they can change the past into their favor even if it involves someone who doesn't reciprocate that vision. you cant change someone if they're people who are abusing and dont know they are because you keep coming back to them. you just end up alienating those who actually love/support you in favor of someone who will fuck you over again.
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silver1sil · 26-30, F
I truly don't understand it but... it seems like an explanation... one that makes me a little sick because it's awful to think this happens especially to someone close to you
Tatsumi · 31-35, M
Comfort zone. Some trait they have they consider worth all the negatives. Or, they are incapable of seeing the negatives or rationalize the negatives, because their brain is full of oxytocin and vasopressin.
And yeah. People tend to believe what they want to believe or what they're afraid is true.
And yeah. People tend to believe what they want to believe or what they're afraid is true.
silver1sil · 26-30, F
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silver1sil · 26-30, F
@mic11225: it's not me. I question it too... I just don't understand and maybe it's because I'm someone who from
The moment I was able to talk I was taught that I can't love anyone if I don't love myself first and foremost, that I am strong and never deserve to think anything less. And even when I'm not right I reserve the right to my own opinion and that no one should ever scream obsenities and try to belittle me. I don't see how two people raised I t he same situation one submitted to a culture and the other fought it off from a young age and became stronger while the other repeated the same cycle
The moment I was able to talk I was taught that I can't love anyone if I don't love myself first and foremost, that I am strong and never deserve to think anything less. And even when I'm not right I reserve the right to my own opinion and that no one should ever scream obsenities and try to belittle me. I don't see how two people raised I t he same situation one submitted to a culture and the other fought it off from a young age and became stronger while the other repeated the same cycle
mic11225 · 26-30, M
@silver1sil: people are biologically different from one another, so they are going to have differences in temperament, which affects how they react to things. Even if your environment looks the same on the surface, there are alot of subtle differences in the details of those individual environments, your relationships with other people are going to be different than anyone elses relationship with that same other person. If you don't understand where it comes from then it probably comes from something that wasn't shown to you.
silver1sil · 26-30, F
I am the same way which is why I find it so hard to understand
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MorbidCynic · F
Simple answer. They are stupid.
Socialclutz · 36-40, M
Penis envy?