What makes people return to a relationship which is unhealthy?

If it's based on lies, insults, someone being drunk constantly feeling alone regardless of whether if it's true.... why go back?? I don't understand? Maybe, some may feel I'm speaking from a place of priveledge or lack of knowledge... if you say love is the reason is it really love? Or is it want, the desire for it to be love for there to be a reason, and/or it just familairity? Knowing that and not wanting to change a stupid routine where you're unhappy? What is it? Please reason with me... because I truly don't understand!

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Tinkerhell · 41-45, F

You're made to believe that it's what you deserve, that things will be different. That YOU are the reason things are so bad. That you are dirt, you are worthless, you can do no better. You keep believing, until you finally wake up and don't. Then it's the shame that keeps you there. Once the shame is gone and you figure out YOU did nothing wrong...then you can move on.

silver1sil · 26-30, F

I'm guessing that viewing it happen and having witnessed it never being broken by shame doesn't help. Especially if it was
Someone you viewed as a strong person and an idol?

Tinkerhell · 41-45, F

@silver1sil: I didn't view it. I lived it.