Why don’t men compliment me directly, they just stare or ask my friend to tell me like we’re in middle school.

I’m very very awkward kinda quiet reserved and in my own world. My personality is like Wednesday Adams if she wore pink. When men look at me they don’t smile, they stare and they run off or scurry away from me if I even talk to them or be nice. My friend reassured me that it’s not me and that I’m really pretty. Because I been scaring men away so much, I thought something was wrong with me. Until last night I realised men are really scared to talk to me, I had to make a stop with a friend and she tells me her step son thinks I’m really pretty. When I first saw him I was like that’s my type immediately, travis barker, blink 182 looking type of retired drummer look. 😂😂😂 I kept looking at him and sparking conversation but he scurried away and then text my friend as soon as we drove off that he thinks I’m really cute. Then I asked my friend why do guys do this to me why do they act so afraid to tell me they like me or think I’m pretty to my face, or show interest to my face.

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GerOttman · 61-69, M

I almost never tell a pretty girl she is pretty because I figure she already knows.

Lexiitexii · 31-35, F

@GerOttman tbh they could use hearing those kind words a lot of people are actually always trying to humble pretty women. To the point some have depression and can’t tell reality. Imagine getting pretty, being clean, caring about your hair your outfit, and smelling good but a guy isn’t brave enough to approach you or tell you you’re beautiful. He literally waited till I left to text my friend he thought I was I pretty and interested when he could’ve told me and asked for my number directly.

clairedelune · M

@Lexiitexii but I've gotten the impression that a lot of beautiful women don't want to hear from me that they're beautiful as my first compliment. I've figured that then a woman perceives a guy as only wanting to get her in bed...

clairedelune · M

@Lexiitexii frankly, I only hit on a woman, including telling her that she's beautiful, if I think she's got a good heart, and seems like she's my type, and is more likely to be a good match for something substantial, and not something casual, which isn't my thing. But generally women don't immediately pick that up about me, so usually I don't tell a woman too soon that she's beautiful...