Is it normal to enjoy husband leaving for months at a time ?

I just feel like I can breathe be silly, wake up when I feel like it, not constantly being judged and required to do something. There are times when I thought my husband was enjoying something with me but he was judging my every move, reaction, timing. When he leaves for work trips I get so happy that I have to contain my happiness and act a little sad when dropping him off at the airport. He also smothers me when he is here he has no life outside of me. So my days consist of him monitoring what I eat, telling me to be consistent with workouts, I just can’t breathe. I found myself sneaking away to grab chic fil a burgers without him cause he is a strict vegan.

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DoubleRings · 51-55, F

Somewhat relatable. Mines a ball of stress. Everything is an issue and he can’t let anything go with anyone. Constant drama. If he went away for a week or so I’d prob enjoy it, not gonna lie. He’d never go away for a few months…

Lexiitexii · 31-35, F

So you get me it’s the people on here acting like we’re not normal for feeling this way. Let me tell you how space saved us. When he came back this last time we just had fun Didn’t argue we just felt this peace that we wanted to keep and share with each other after experiencing it apart. @DoubleRings

DoubleRings · 51-55, F

People don’t get it. But yes I do. He taxes my energy most of the time. He’s a busy body and loud and constantly talking and worried about peoples business. He’s messy and I have to be right behind him cleaning up. @Lexiitexii I have to make sure tasks are done on time or done at all. I’m always checking cause he forgets things often due to being so busy. And then like I said earlier he has an issue with just about everyone and takes a position about just about anything including mundane events like if we are using the correct bowls for cereal vs soup or how many perfectly reusable plastic bags we tossed in the garbage (I actually cut holes in the bottom so he won’t pull them out). When he’s gone the only anxiety I have is what drama happened while he was out and how it will impact me.