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Does an age gap relationship make sense?

How big of a difference is okay? I think 10 year is the cut off or close to it at least.
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It depends more on the ages and stage in life. At 20 I would have had little in common with a 35 year old, but at 40 I am quite compatible with a 55 year old.
Yes depends on personality too whether you will be compatible. The problem is not when you are 35 but when you are 55 and he is 75.
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@TwinklelilStar: True.
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my friend is 33 and his girlfriend is 18 going on 19. they get along really well.
Coppercoil · M
@theowl: yeah.. sounds just like an ex of mine. She was on a mission. It was like she was determined to harm herself and those around her. Her parents were good people.. her sister was just fine.. just something in her was off and compelled her into a destructive lifestyle.
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yep that sounds like her 100 percent. she has really good parents. just wants destructive risky lifestyle. one of these times shes going to meet up with a guy who will do her harm. she's already talks to hundreds of men and meets up with some of them.
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@coppercoil: No. I don't. I dated guys who were far older than I was, which is why I would have a serious issue with my daughter doing anything that stupid. Luckily, she is too academic to care about dating.
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I think for me I'd want it kept within 10 years. Much more than that in either direction and there will be differences arising from age even if you're not seeing them right away. There's a lot of experience to be had in a decade's worth of life that I think at times would make it hard to continually relate to someone that much younger or older. But there are of course cases and people where this wouldn't even be apparent. We're a fickle species.
UDontKnowMe · 80-89, M
It depends on the agenda. It can work as a simple arrangement, certainly with a 20-year difference but there needs to be much more circumspection if children are to be a possible outcome. I don't think it is good for children to have a parent who is of grandparent age.
Yeah i guess if you want that kind of relationship (by arrangement). Some people will be happy with arrangement and the more mature the more likely as priorities and view on life changes.
It has been problematic in my experience. Much over 10 years, I would say to avoid.
Th1nkF1rst · 70-79, M
5 yrs below 28 and 8-10 as you get older
That actually makes a lot of sense.
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Coppercoil · M
×/- 10 is safe for societal norms and minimizing ahead gap related conflicts. I've pushed the limits both directions and it can be done if the bond is strong enough. Lots of stories out there. But yeah rule of thumb no more than ten is the easy road.
Me too. Push the limits both way. Im sure there are exceptions to the rule of thumb some couples are very happy .
AliceMortem · 31-35, F
Yeah 10 yrs give or take
Dolimyte · 41-45, M
3 months. No exceptions!
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Cant see why not but once again more than 10-12 years is stretching it.
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Well I've dated men who are way older. Never saw a problem.
I am not talking about dating short term. There are major long term complications.
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When does age become a problem with long term?
later in life i reckon after 35 it is pretty much a downwards spiral lol. ( will be in trouble for saying that) .
GoldenWorm · 51-55, M
I dated a woman half my age last night. I think once the younger partner is in the 20s, it's all good.
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My Tennessean wife doesn't care about our age difference
Allelse · 36-40, M
As long as its legal.
[c=#BF0080]I totally agree with you.[/c]

 
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