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I think I'm done dating Irish/English girls.

Now when I say Irish English, I am referring to women who are over 33% Irish and/or English. My reasoning here from data from dating complied is:

1. I am of a more "romantic" and "warm" European ancestry. Think French, Italian, Spanish, Portuguese, Greek. Irish/English girls are not "warm and fuzzy", or romantic from my experience. Very stoic, and more standoffish especially when it comes to physical touch. Also the personality is far less flirty than that of the more "romantic" Euro ethnicities. This is a direct conflict with how I approach dating, which is romantic and breaking the touch barrier early. I cannot figure Irish/English women out and how to progress anything with them because it seems the expectations are different. This makes any date with an Irish/English girl feel platonic... and it goes NOWHERE.

2. With Italian/Greek/French/German/Portuguese/Arabic girls, my success rate is 80% for a second date and 70% for a relationship. With a girl who is over 33% English/Irish, my success rate for a second date is 5% and my success rate for a relationship is 1%.

3. They seem to have much more of an "independence" mindset. This goes from being kicked out at 18 and paving their path from there, into not "needing" a romantic partner. This conflicts with many other (including my), Euro ancestry, which typically stay with their parents longer, and are less afraid of being in a committed arrangement with a partner.

I just don't understand what Irish/English girls expect on a first date. Or why my failure rate is so high with them. Sometimes I think they have a stick up their arse. The worst part is, I am most attracted to Irish/English features (light features). But the personalities are just so... cold. Any input greatly appreciated.
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OntheroadM
Do you really keep statistics on the dates you've had? I mean we all have a quirks, likes and dislikes, but keeping statistics on women you date sounds sort of... a bit off?

Yeah, just enjoy the date, have some fun and see where it goes. I will say that back in the 80's I met and dated an English woman who was quite warm, loads of fun and the total opposite of what you describe. So much so that we went from "Hi!, nice to meet you" to breakfast in bed in a shamefully short period of time. Ahhhh, the memories - that lady was all hands... and lips and... well, you get the picture 馃お.
ShadowWolf31-35, M
@Ontheroad Yes sir. I do. You may consider it off, but I consider it smart. It allows me to see what works, and what doesn't. Data runs the world.

Yes, "enjoy the date and see where it goes", that's the common tagline. But when you have 25 unique dates with english or irish girls that do not turn into second dates, there is nothing to enjoy. Especially when I'm throwing money at dinners, coffee etc for no results. Meanwhile the success rate is higher with other ethnicities, then the data doesn't lie. At least for me. You might mesh better with them. It is clear based on the data that I do not.
OntheroadM
@ShadowWolf That's exactly the outlook (when I'm throwing money at dinners, coffee etc for no results") that sounds so negative, so off putting and I'm guessing these "unique dates" felt that.

Going into a date with the expectation that you will get something (and this is only my opinion based upon many dates), is a sure way to get nothing.

I just don't get it. I go on dates to have fun and with extremely few exceptions, I have fun, I enjoy the evening, the dinner, the show or whatever we may do and expect zero in return. I never felt the need to pressure a woman, pressure myself or grade the date - I just enjoyed myself and when I spent money... it was a big so what. Second dates were frequent, third dates a little less frequent, but some very rewarding long term dating/relationships with amazing benefits were had.

What I'm suggesting is a change in outlook, a lessening of expectations and a focus on relaxing, having fun and letting nature take its course.