I think I'm done dating Irish/English girls.

Now when I say Irish English, I am referring to women who are over 33% Irish and/or English. My reasoning here from data from dating complied is:

1. I am of a more "romantic" and "warm" European ancestry. Think French, Italian, Spanish, Portuguese, Greek. Irish/English girls are not "warm and fuzzy", or romantic from my experience. Very stoic, and more standoffish especially when it comes to physical touch. Also the personality is far less flirty than that of the more "romantic" Euro ethnicities. This is a direct conflict with how I approach dating, which is romantic and breaking the touch barrier early. I cannot figure Irish/English women out and how to progress anything with them because it seems the expectations are different. This makes any date with an Irish/English girl feel platonic... and it goes NOWHERE.

2. With Italian/Greek/French/German/Portuguese/Arabic girls, my success rate is 80% for a second date and 70% for a relationship. With a girl who is over 33% English/Irish, my success rate for a second date is 5% and my success rate for a relationship is 1%.

3. They seem to have much more of an "independence" mindset. This goes from being kicked out at 18 and paving their path from there, into not "needing" a romantic partner. This conflicts with many other (including my), Euro ancestry, which typically stay with their parents longer, and are less afraid of being in a committed arrangement with a partner.

I just don't understand what Irish/English girls expect on a first date. Or why my failure rate is so high with them. Sometimes I think they have a stick up their arse. The worst part is, I am most attracted to Irish/English features (light features). But the personalities are just so... cold. Any input greatly appreciated.

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HeidiA · 41-45, F

Oof. This post has “Im going to die alone” written all over it.

ShadowWolf · 31-35, M

@HeidiA Coming from a British woman, I sense a bias.

HeidiA · 41-45, F

@ShadowWolf Your senses have led you this far astray…

At your age I was married with two kids. You’re running out of time 🤭

ShadowWolf · 31-35, M

@HeidiA How have I been led astray? Biological clock is only for women ;) Men have until about 60 to reproduce haha.

HeidiA · 41-45, F

@ShadowWolf If their looks hood out…😬

ShadowWolf · 31-35, M

@HeidiA Men are like a fine wine with age. Women usually lose their looks first. And their ability to reproduce. And also, how shallow of you. You are an example of why I cannot deal with British women. Enjoy menopause!

HeidiA · 41-45, F

@ShadowWolf Enjoy meals for one. 🙂

ShadowWolf · 31-35, M

@HeidiA While your looks fade, and your crows feet get bigger, and your hair loses it's luster. There will be a nice Italian, Spanish or Portuguese woman who won't have those issues by my side. Sucks to be British doesn't it? You girls age faster than a dog. Thankfully my Italian blood will keep me looking young for quite some time. Mediterranean longevity.

HeidiA · 41-45, F

@ShadowWolf I’ve got a husband and kids to share whatever comes next. You’ll still be here blaming other peoples heritage for you lonesome days.

ShadowWolf · 31-35, M

@HeidiA Thankfully I have other options other than British women should I decide to go that route. In fact, there is a Portuguese girl who is all over me. If only British women were more in tune with showing their emotions and being affectionate like that.

HeidiA · 41-45, F

@ShadowWolf You have no options. Thats why you’re still single in your 30s, scrutinising other people instead of your own hang ups.

ShadowWolf · 31-35, M

@HeidiA You don't know what I have. You seem to be very insecure, especially because you got triggered by a post about British women. You got your "knickers in a bunch" and started coming at me due to being offended. I have plenty of options. My issue, that I've identified in this post, is that I have a strong attraction to British women, but our personalities are incompatible, as are our dating languages and expectations.
Also, the point was to get some insight on to approach British women on a first date, vs what works with other ethnicities.
This was by no means an anti-British post. Moreso a vent, and asking for advice. Instead, you took offense and started being rude and offensive yourself.

HeidiA · 41-45, F

@ShadowWolf I didn’t say it was anti British and I’m not here to wave a flag. My response to you have been about looking at yourself to find solutions rather than blaming others on a perceived stereotype

ShadowWolf · 31-35, M

@HeidiA Why not offer something more constructive, advice wise, than something snarky? Look, I'd find it hard to change the way I was raised to accommodate a British girl. A user here actually offered a GREAT explanation:

[b]"girls from the uk tend to like Humour and wit especially in Ireland and Scotland. if you can't keep up with the banter then you're not gonna do well. you can be charming without being too forward, you just need to be able to hold an interesting conversation. trying to be overly romantic and flirty will just make you seem like you're only interested for the physical side of dating and trying to "Break the touch barrier early" only reinforces that opinion."[/b]

My traditional approach to dating, does not work, for the reason this user mentioned. Not with British women. While I could improve on "witty banter", I am more of a flirter. Which works with most women other than British girls.

It was not my intent to go to war with you or raise my own flag. But you didn't exactly take kindly with your first post on my thread.