I think I'm done dating Irish/English girls.

Now when I say Irish English, I am referring to women who are over 33% Irish and/or English. My reasoning here from data from dating complied is:

1. I am of a more "romantic" and "warm" European ancestry. Think French, Italian, Spanish, Portuguese, Greek. Irish/English girls are not "warm and fuzzy", or romantic from my experience. Very stoic, and more standoffish especially when it comes to physical touch. Also the personality is far less flirty than that of the more "romantic" Euro ethnicities. This is a direct conflict with how I approach dating, which is romantic and breaking the touch barrier early. I cannot figure Irish/English women out and how to progress anything with them because it seems the expectations are different. This makes any date with an Irish/English girl feel platonic... and it goes NOWHERE.

2. With Italian/Greek/French/German/Portuguese/Arabic girls, my success rate is 80% for a second date and 70% for a relationship. With a girl who is over 33% English/Irish, my success rate for a second date is 5% and my success rate for a relationship is 1%.

3. They seem to have much more of an "independence" mindset. This goes from being kicked out at 18 and paving their path from there, into not "needing" a romantic partner. This conflicts with many other (including my), Euro ancestry, which typically stay with their parents longer, and are less afraid of being in a committed arrangement with a partner.

I just don't understand what Irish/English girls expect on a first date. Or why my failure rate is so high with them. Sometimes I think they have a stick up their arse. The worst part is, I am most attracted to Irish/English features (light features). But the personalities are just so... cold. Any input greatly appreciated.

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WhateverWorks · 36-40

🤔 I dunno.., everyone’s giving you a hard time (I too am skeptical of your inferences made here as to why you haven’t hit it off with English and Irish women), but there might be some validity to the idea of a culture gap.

ShadowWolf · 31-35, M

@WhateverWorks It's fine if some people chose to give me a hard time. Doesn't hurt me. I promise you based on my data, at least for me, the inferences stand. I do believe the culture gap is very real.

WhateverWorks · 36-40

The culture gap might be legit, but it also might not be the way you’re inferring. The culture gap might just be the way you come off versus what qualities someone who is English or Irish stereo typically is looking for in a life partner is different than the other backgrounds you mentioned. I am from the United States, so I can’t speak for English or Irish women though as to what adjectives they commonly value. @ShadowWolf

ShadowWolf · 31-35, M

@WhateverWorks I should clarify. English or Irish ancestry as well, who may live in the US. I am also from the US. And my experience has been with girls who are American, but with English Irish ancestry majorly.
The way I come off? How about the way they come off?
I want to give an example that I think is applicable here. One close to home. My dad is British. My mother is Italian. My mother always said my father was cold and unfeeling compared to how she was brought up as an Italian. It causes some issues with them sometimes. (They are still married). His family makes far less of an effort to be warm as well. There is a direct contrast in how my moms Italian side operates, and my dad's British side does. By warm, referring to getting together, hugging/touching/kissing, and overall personality such as just showing affection, being welcoming etc.
Coincidence? I think not. That has been my experience with dating as well. For example, an Italian or Portuguese girl will be more clingy, show more affection, and be a little more emotionally available.