Will it be a bad idea to ask this?
Tldr; I want to ask someone to check out a museum with me but I'm afraid she'll assume it's a date
Sooo there's this lady I met while I was in grad school but didn't know too much about her apart from small talk and all that, we met through my youth fellowship.
The day after I graduated she reached out to me which was weird because we had never texted before even though we had ecah other's numbers through the group chat, and told me that she loved my performance (I sang the national anthem at graduation) and wanted to meet up for coffee. I was still moving off campus into my new apartment so didn't really respond favorably but she was really insistent so we eventually did and had a great time/conversation. I kind of got the feeling that she meant it as a date but I didn't read into it or make any assumptions.
However I had already been on two dates with someone I met on a dating app at that point, and honestly to me our coffee chat felt kind of like a "friends" vibe.
So anyway long story short the woman I have been dating has been kinda flaky, idk. But she did give a reason (say her grandmother is in hospice care and so she had to fly home to see her) and I've toned down how much I text her because I really don't want to bother her (and also can't tell if that's just an excuse, people on dating apps are unpredictable).
Anyway, I only like to date one person at a time, even if it hasn't gotten to the point where you know each other to be exclusive. So I'm still definitely interested in the woman I met off the dating app, and want to keep that going until I'm absolutely sure she's not interested. Since the lady I'm dating left a week and a half ago I've been either hanging out with friends and/or taking myself on solo dates (going to the movies alone, trying new restaurants, etc)
Long story short I want to check out a Black History museum that the woman from my fellowship recommended and would love to check it out with her, because she seemed to know a lot about it. But I'm worried about giving the impression that I'm asking her out on a date. She's a really nice woman and honestly has a great personality, I definitely enjoyed talking with her and getting to know her, and so I don't want to play with her feelings at all. Would it be wise to still ask her to check it out with me or not?
Sooo there's this lady I met while I was in grad school but didn't know too much about her apart from small talk and all that, we met through my youth fellowship.
The day after I graduated she reached out to me which was weird because we had never texted before even though we had ecah other's numbers through the group chat, and told me that she loved my performance (I sang the national anthem at graduation) and wanted to meet up for coffee. I was still moving off campus into my new apartment so didn't really respond favorably but she was really insistent so we eventually did and had a great time/conversation. I kind of got the feeling that she meant it as a date but I didn't read into it or make any assumptions.
However I had already been on two dates with someone I met on a dating app at that point, and honestly to me our coffee chat felt kind of like a "friends" vibe.
So anyway long story short the woman I have been dating has been kinda flaky, idk. But she did give a reason (say her grandmother is in hospice care and so she had to fly home to see her) and I've toned down how much I text her because I really don't want to bother her (and also can't tell if that's just an excuse, people on dating apps are unpredictable).
Anyway, I only like to date one person at a time, even if it hasn't gotten to the point where you know each other to be exclusive. So I'm still definitely interested in the woman I met off the dating app, and want to keep that going until I'm absolutely sure she's not interested. Since the lady I'm dating left a week and a half ago I've been either hanging out with friends and/or taking myself on solo dates (going to the movies alone, trying new restaurants, etc)
Long story short I want to check out a Black History museum that the woman from my fellowship recommended and would love to check it out with her, because she seemed to know a lot about it. But I'm worried about giving the impression that I'm asking her out on a date. She's a really nice woman and honestly has a great personality, I definitely enjoyed talking with her and getting to know her, and so I don't want to play with her feelings at all. Would it be wise to still ask her to check it out with me or not?
26-30, M
