Do you believe in long distance relationships?
Or even online one?with the potential and anticipation of it not staying that way for too long. Maybe I'm just a dreamer
31-35, M
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Tatsumi · 31-35, M
I grew up with a guy who got married to a girl he met online. Now, the only reason it worked out for them was because she moved to our state. Physical relationships and proximity are pretty important for relationships. If humans have pheromones, which is unconfirmed but possible, that's part of it. But staring into someone's eyes also releases oxytocin. Touching releases oxytocin. And there's probably other stuff happening on that level
Without that level of physical intimacy in whatever form, online relationships tend to burn bright, but burn out much quicker. It's easier to get close to someone--on some level--online, as personal image is less of an issue, so people can speak heart-to-heart, more easily. But, they also burn out quicker, imo. And they're much more vulnerable to outside forces. E.g. meeting someone who is actually around you.
As for long-distance, same issue. I had a gf go to the military, and we talked on the phone and wrote letters all the time. But distance is rough. We ended up breaking up. Mostly because I couldn't handle the distance. It's difficult.
Can it work? Probably. But it won't in most cases, imo. If you both have plans to move in together, like my friend did, it can work. Otherwise, it's most likely doomed to failure.
Without that level of physical intimacy in whatever form, online relationships tend to burn bright, but burn out much quicker. It's easier to get close to someone--on some level--online, as personal image is less of an issue, so people can speak heart-to-heart, more easily. But, they also burn out quicker, imo. And they're much more vulnerable to outside forces. E.g. meeting someone who is actually around you.
As for long-distance, same issue. I had a gf go to the military, and we talked on the phone and wrote letters all the time. But distance is rough. We ended up breaking up. Mostly because I couldn't handle the distance. It's difficult.
Can it work? Probably. But it won't in most cases, imo. If you both have plans to move in together, like my friend did, it can work. Otherwise, it's most likely doomed to failure.