Why do I always end up in confusing contradicting situations with men?

Look, I know I'm going to sound very unromantic here but...it sounds like he's got another woman in the background. He hopes to work things out with her but wants you around in case things don't work out with her. She may be in an uncertain situation (deciding whether to leave her husband, considering a job in another city or a foreign country etc.) And he is waiting to see what she will do.

And now, I'm going to sound even less romantic. First, if you have the money to do this (and you can check it out with a phone call or two to see what it might cost), get an in depth background check to find out what's really been going on in his life. This is something you can do to see how much truth you are getting from a guy. Second, if you cannot afford this, or really don't want to do this, just let this guy go. Because, let's face it, if he is wavering this much, he is not an enthusiastic devoted guy falling hard for you and you alone...right?

Because lots of men are confusing and contradictory.

Also, read a book by Genie Sayles: [i]How To Marry Rich.[/i] Don't be put off by the title. It's got a lot of good ideas about how to conduct a relationship in general. One thing she recommends: When a guy wavers or seems to be losing interest in you...get [i]busy.[/i] Start doing other things, seeing other guys, going out with friends, pursuing hobbies, volunteer work, etc. When the guy calls, tell him you would really [i]love[/i] to see him, you miss him, but you are just way too [i]busy.[/i] If he drifts away, it was never meant to be. If he doesn't go away, but persists, then see him again. Every time he pulls away, you get very, very busy and just do not have the time for him. Asking him over and over what he really, really wants is not attractive or flirty. And being genuinely busy with other stuff and other people [i]is.[/i] It also puts his attentions in perspective and cushions any disappointment you are feeling.

I highly recommend the Genie Sayles book.

Just think of it as a means of vetting out the ones who don't deserve any more of your time

What kind of situations?

Because women and men speak different languages

no one needs someone playing games like that.

Maybe just relax and let things happen - or not happen - as the case presents itself???

Because you probably meet pussies.

Someone like me will not tolerate or encourage shit.

Well the fun and exciting part is finding out why :)

Because you are a sweet girl and us bad men want to do things to you...

I dunno. I guess he's not serious?

women are really contradicting too.